Excited Older Sister is Turning Domineering
Out of the 2 kids, Erik's daughter is excited about having a baby sister. She's even called herself the built in babysitter and will babysit anytime, will skip school even and be at our door step everyday. She is 11 years old going on 12 in September. She's a good age where we could call upon her to do paid babysitting when baby turns into a toddler..maybe. We'll have to see how she does with the baby. Of course, we would never allow her to skip school or extracurricular activities to babysit.
During the last couple of months, she's gotten really bossy about decisions Erik and I have made about crib bedding, baby's going home outfit from hospital, baby's first Halloween costume, etc. For example, she's said "Oh, no, no monkey themes. She's a little princess and should have a princess theme....You're looking for a 2nd stroller? My mom and I got her a stroller already. I get to help choose the Halloween costume so you have to take me shopping, and you can't get it without me.".... Erik thinks it's cute, but I find it a growing annoyance. It would be fine if she was considerate about her choice of words, like "I'd like to help..."Can I help choose..." Then again she's also 11.
I'm in my mid 30s and this might be the only baby I have. I want those decisions to be shared with Dad NOT taken over by excited older sister.
Anyone have any ideas/suggestions as to what I/Erik can do or say to her when she starts getting domineering?