Meeting up with coworkers during my disability period

I have been with the same company for 6 years and counting. I've been through episodes of mental illness (I have a mood disorder) and have had to go on a handful of short term disabilities over the years.

My old lead from a different department at same company contacted me this morning via text to say hi and to let me know she hasn't seen me at the office lately. We had a text dialogue, and she knows I'm on the down low because I'm on disability again, and I agreed to have a get together with 3 others from our old team. She is putting that together.

She's aware of my mental illness but not about the pregnancy. I figure she and the other gal (my old supervisor) could find out when they see my belly bump. The other 2 gals know about my pregnancy and have been very supportive and kept it in the down low.

Moms & moms-2-be, what kind of advice would you give me about the meet up with those 4 gals that are happening in early July? 3 of the 4 still work at the same company. The 2 that aren't aware of my pregnancy hold leadership positions so I'm not overly concerned about reminding them about confidentiality, etc...Do you think it's not wise to meet up with them? What would you do if you were in my shoes?

The reason why I have been tight lipped about my pregnancy with coworkers is because I don't want anyone judging me for being irresponsible and getting pregnant when I have a mental illness. On my current team, there are a couple of coworkers who are very judgmental and have made comments about my mental illness that were less than encouraging.

The reason why I'm out on disability this time around is because I'm not able to take my supplement regimen safely during pregnancy. My irritability is high and my patience low, not a good combo for the line of work that I'm in. I'm afraid I might explode on customers if they piss me off. Horrible, I know :/

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    These 4 women I could always trust on past disabilities. Always supportive and quick to ask if there was anything they could help me out with. I'm very fortunate to have them as coworker friends. The only real concern would be if a work acquaintance saw us at a restaurant and reported back that I was seen laughing and having a good time. I just don't want appearances to be misconstrued like, "She still works there, but she's not able to be at work. Yet she looks fine, laughing and having a good time."
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        06/17/14
        I would take a deep breathe and don't let people judge you . just be yourself. If you feel like your feel like you can handle it, make your excuses and leave
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          About MaryJane
          Birth: March 25
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          Pregnant back to back. I have a baby girl and another on the way. I'm also a pseudo-step mom to 2 tweens.