Relationship..... confused

Me and my youngest sons father have been having a lot of communication problems and I have began to think he some what resents me for choices be has made.... I'm not sure this is the right place to ask for advice or to even just vent. I put my kids first always, no questions about it. It's just with having a long, horrible, devastating relationship before; that did ultimately bless my life with my oldest son and daughter. Makes for a hard place for him being in their life as long as his other children he is away from.... I want for this to work I just don't know how much longer me sugar coating things for his feelings to be protected, I can do especially since mine aren't being heard.

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BrittanyCorpus Christi, Texas
    06/17/14
    Beth
    I think this is the perfect place to ask - we're a big group of women in all different kinds of relationships.

    I think wanting something to work is the most important. The rest you can both work through if you give it time, are open with each other, and are both wanting things to work out then you can do it. Take some time and really think about what you think is best for you and all three of your children, and go from there. We are here for you mama!
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      06/17/14
      You're definitely in the right place :)

      I agree with Beth that wanting it work is important. If you both care about each other and want to be with each other you can sit down and work it out. Sugar coating things rarely does any good. You don't have to be mean about things, but you need to tell him how it is. I always found that writing a letter works well because it takes the emotion out of the conversation.
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        06/17/14
        One huge lesson I have learned is don't make yourself smaller to make someone else feel bigger. Do NOT do that. The reality is that if you don't look out for your own feelings NO ONE else will. Let him know what you are feeling as kindly as you can. But don't sugar coat it either. If he can't handle that then where is the room to grow together? And if you can't bring it up then how can you grow together?
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          06/17/14
          8Theresa Gould
          I think this is a great place to vent and ask for advice as there is a huge number of people to offer different thoughts and opinions to help you think things through.

          I think the others have offered some sound advice, I really do not have much more to add at this time.
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            06/17/14
            Brittany
            thank you Beth, Taylor, Melissaand Theresa Gould, I appreciate the time to respond, I really appreciate it. That's all I want is to make sure there is room for us to grow and to be heard. I respect him a lot, just now with his new job we haven't really had time together and really started to bug me because we used to spend a lot of time together with my children and it meant a lot to me. He just seems to be so stressed so I try to give him space but, I dont want to end up not being heard or acknowledged of my feelings because I would like to think he wants the same and loves me just as much as I do him,.....
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            About Brittany
            Current: Corpus Christi, Texas
            Birth: August 22
            On Moms.com since: Jun 15, 2014
            a young mother of three children. My oldest son is four, my daughter is two and my youngest son is four months.