Knowing my sons a little less..

Le Sigh.. Get the tissues out..

This article is amazing and heart pulling all at once.. it's from a Mom of 3 grown boys.. the youngest just graduated High School.. so soon, after the Summer, he will go off to college.. and that will be that.. empty nest.

What I love most about this article is the rather interesting perspective she is coming from... that the core reason why it's so hard for her to watch them go, not come home, leave.. is because she will quite frankly, be knowing them a little less now.. no longer will she see their day to day in front of her own eyes, or see all their interactions.. she will see pictures sent and texts made.. she feels like she will know them less by them going away.. I never thought about it like that.. but it is kind of true.

I cannot imagine now, after having my own son.. even just at a few months old, how sad it really must be when they move out.. my days are filled with Monroe's sweet smiles.. I cannot wait to share so many memories with him.. I love him more each day, a love I honestly never knew could exist.. so the feeling of watching them move out.. well that must be heart wrenching..

I was always so in awe of how my parents encouraged us to do exactly what we wanted in life.. live wherever, do whatever career wise.. and all just with unending support, 24/7, day, night, all the time... I love when she talks about still always being interested, still always wanting to listen to stories and daily tidbits.. even if the kids don't tell them as much.. it's such a Mom, parent, thing.. isn't it? Being consumed.. basically wearing your heart outside your body and watching it move away.

Sigh.. tell me what you think Mamas.. do you think it will be hard when your baby moves out someday?

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    06/17/14
    Honestly, unless something happens t get me at that attachment level...I don't think it will be hard for me. Right now I describe my relationship with Lucas as if he's my brother. I love him and will protect him, but I'm not attached to him just yet as a son. Make sense? I just haven't made it there yet.
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      06/17/14
      Definitely. I'll admit to absolutely loving the fact that I know what every single one of Nina's sounds means, her faces, and the causes of her moods. I love that when she's sad, she comes straight to me for a hug, or when she's tired how she comes up to me and just cuddles in my lap. It makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. She makes me laugh when she comes up and plops a toy in my lap to play with with her, or she tries to drag me off somewhere to play or to get something. I'm going to get alllll sorts of weepy when my little girl leaves the nest one day!
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          06/17/14
          My mom cried the day we moved away. My brother had already been kicked out for various reasons, but once I left with my husband and her only grand-kid so far, she just lost it. She still has my baby brother there, but I'm the oldest, and she just started bawling once I hugged her good bye. I got a call in the car that my good-bye honks in the car only made her cry harder >.< It's a semi-family tradition that when we leave for a little while, or a long while, we honk twice and wave...my entire family does it. My husband thinks it's stupid, lol, but I recently renewed my relationship with my mom on good terms, which she had been trying to do for years and years and I had resisted...My step dad said that my showing I still believed in the family "good bye" tradition set her off on a whole new set of crying! I don't know if I'll bawl like a baby when mine leave for their own lives...I probably will.
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                  06/19/14
                  Danielle Keltner
                  My husband and I are on the same thinking and standards. I loved that my mother taught me everything I needed to know before 17. I didn't move out until I was 19. I watched and still see younger or even some older "kids" (I know I'm still a kid at 23) struggling to cut the rope from their parents and being in the "real world". I don't want to blame social media or parents. Each has their own story, but my mother was my parent/guardian... not friend. I will still hold my children and talk through rough times. I will miss them yes, but I need to know that they will hold their own.

                  That being said: I currently live 10+ hrs from my mother and try to call her at least once a week. Currently we live 2 miles or less from mother in law. It is my time to be the mom and grandparents to be the fun people. It's not fun being a "mean mommy", but I do not want my children to eat candy 24/7.
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                    06/21/14
                    This is a really hard thing to prepare yourself for.

                    My daughter is 16, two years from being an adult. I have told her she is welcome to live at home while she goes to college, but who know what she will do? She says she plans to do that but two years from now she might find the love of her life and marry him. It's not impossible.

                    So, I just tell myself that I am going to be happy for her if she is happy inher life. Yes, it will suck not being as close. I will still have Bub for awhile so I won't be totally alone.
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                      07/20/14
                      I think I might go through the empty nest syndrome if they move out. I get attached easily, and I think I will be one of those moms that enjoys all stages of their kids' growing up years. I think I'll probably be most fond of when they become adults, like when the relationship changes and we're adult to adult instead of adult to child. I want to have those conversations with my kids about controversial issues, their thoughts and feelings, things like that.

                      But what if they leave and then come back because of hardship: job loss, divorce, etc? And what if they bring along their significant other, my grand kids, etc...I hope there is a wwww.momsofadults.com LOL...
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