Knowing my sons a little less..
Le Sigh.. Get the tissues out..
This article is amazing and heart pulling all at once.. it's from a Mom of 3 grown boys.. the youngest just graduated High School.. so soon, after the Summer, he will go off to college.. and that will be that.. empty nest.
What I love most about this article is the rather interesting perspective she is coming from... that the core reason why it's so hard for her to watch them go, not come home, leave.. is because she will quite frankly, be knowing them a little less now.. no longer will she see their day to day in front of her own eyes, or see all their interactions.. she will see pictures sent and texts made.. she feels like she will know them less by them going away.. I never thought about it like that.. but it is kind of true.
I cannot imagine now, after having my own son.. even just at a few months old, how sad it really must be when they move out.. my days are filled with Monroe's sweet smiles.. I cannot wait to share so many memories with him.. I love him more each day, a love I honestly never knew could exist.. so the feeling of watching them move out.. well that must be heart wrenching..
I was always so in awe of how my parents encouraged us to do exactly what we wanted in life.. live wherever, do whatever career wise.. and all just with unending support, 24/7, day, night, all the time... I love when she talks about still always being interested, still always wanting to listen to stories and daily tidbits.. even if the kids don't tell them as much.. it's such a Mom, parent, thing.. isn't it? Being consumed.. basically wearing your heart outside your body and watching it move away.
Sigh.. tell me what you think Mamas.. do you think it will be hard when your baby moves out someday?
That being said: I currently live 10+ hrs from my mother and try to call her at least once a week. Currently we live 2 miles or less from mother in law. It is my time to be the mom and grandparents to be the fun people. It's not fun being a "mean mommy", but I do not want my children to eat candy 24/7.
My daughter is 16, two years from being an adult. I have told her she is welcome to live at home while she goes to college, but who know what she will do? She says she plans to do that but two years from now she might find the love of her life and marry him. It's not impossible.
So, I just tell myself that I am going to be happy for her if she is happy inher life. Yes, it will suck not being as close. I will still have Bub for awhile so I won't be totally alone.
But what if they leave and then come back because of hardship: job loss, divorce, etc? And what if they bring along their significant other, my grand kids, etc...I hope there is a wwww.momsofadults.com LOL...