What do you do? "Mommy I don't love you no more"

 I love both of my babies, and I hate that I have to tell them no on certain things that I know they would really want, like another cookie before bedtime or cake and ice cream after they did not finish their dinner. Lately my youngest has taken to the «Mommy I don't love you» or «Mommy I don't like you no more». My first reaction was shock and complete sadness. 

 I felt like I was the worse mommy in the world. When it came time to bedtime my little one, blanket in hand, comes over for a goodnight kiss, a hug and tells me she loves me as I tuck her in for bed, rolls over and goes to sleep. I sat there for a moment just staring at her, and that is when realization hit.

When she says things like that she does not completely understand what she is truly saying she is just simply expressing her displeasure at not getting what she wants. 

So if you are going through this try not to be upset by it, just know that your little one does not realize or understand his/her own emotions just yet, and it is all a learning curve for them and they are just figuring out their own emotions and their reactions to various situations. If you can find out why they are upset validate their emotions and show them an alternative to expressing that emotion. 

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    08/08/13
    What do you say for your babies exactly? Something like "please dont say so, you can hurt me"?
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      08/08/13
      Isn't it awful that they can cut you so quickly and sharply? Their little emotions are so strong.. and they are mad that you told them no... Try to give them words... Like, "You're mad because I said no to a cookie aren't you?" .. then tell them that you understand and that you might feel mad too being told no... I agree with Mariya... be sure to re direct, because it DOES hurt... a lot.. lol..
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        08/08/13
        Isn't it awful that they can cut you so quickly and sharply? Their little emotions are so strong.. and they are mad that you told them no... Try to give them words... Like, "You're mad because I said no to a cookie aren't you?" .. then tell them that you understand and that you might feel mad too being told no... I agree with Mariya... be sure to re direct, because it DOES hurt... a lot.. lol..
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          08/09/13
          8Theresa Gould
          Yeah, it's pretty hurtful, until we realize they are just trying to get their way.
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