I'm not very good at doing what I'm told...

This may be a little tmi just to let you know...

Let me start by saying that for the last three months of my pregnancy, I wasn't really excited about having sex... don't get me wrong, I was still super attracted to my husband and once we started, I was into it; but I wasn't ever just in the mood for sex, which is very odd for me. Anyway, I thought it would take me months after Ingrid was born to start wanting sex again and I was okay with this because I know that you're supposed to wait until your doctor clears you at the six week postpartum check-up. However, this was not the case. The day that I had Ingrid I started wanting sex again... I was laying in the hospital and I was thinking about how badly I wanted it. I've been telling myself, and Alex, for the past two weeks that we need to wait because I don't want anything to go wrong and what not but last night I caved. We ended up having sex last night. We used a condom because I'm not on birth control yet and I know that after birth you're really fertile. I only bled a little bit and it didn't hurt until the very end when I started to get sore down there. I'm just worried that I won't heal properly because we only waited two weeks. Has anyone else broken the rules and done it early? Was everything okay? Did it take longer to heal?

    I was the same way when I was pregnant. After I delivered I had sex with all of them before my six week check up. My first was a little longer because I had an episiotomy and I had stitches so obviously it took longer to heal but my sex drive came back like full force. With my other two it was only like 2 weeks in and we just used condoms. Everything healed up just fine. I think you should be okay as long as you guys aren't "too rough". Lol.
      I would love to tell you that I waited but I didn't. My libido is crazy high. It never went down through pregnancy or trying to breasfteed or bringing the baby home or anything. If anything it's gotten worse since Charlie was born. Yes, I did cave at 2 weeks but I had a c-section so I can't say if things took longer to heal. The thing you should be worried most about is not being on birth control. Nobody has to tell any of us that the only way to not get pregnant is to not have sex. So.. I would say, forgive yourself. Try your best to handle things on your own for a while if you know what I mean, so that things don't boil over. Good luck.
        Tricia Minor
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        Current: Petersburg, Virginia
        Birth: August 14
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        My husband and I just welcomed our first daughter into the world, June 6th, 2014.