Article: Growing up without grandparents
Since my mother has decided to make some bad decisions lately, she has written herself out of our family. That's sad to me, but sometimes decisions for our kids sake are the hard ones to make.
It brought to mind a few things. I grew up pretty much without grandparents. My fathers family lives in Italy. My mothers parents moved to California to be closer to us, but my grandmother was blind, deaf, in a wheelchair and spoke very little English, and my grandfather was of the mindset that girls are to be seen, not heard. So I had no relationship with any of my grandparents.
Now that I'm a parent, I want it to be different for Charlie. His dad's parents are amazing, I could not create better ones on paper if I had to. My father lives in California so he won't see him much. My mother.. well, see above.
I agree with some viewpoints of this article. Grandparents *can sometimes* be a great resource, but things have changed so much since they had babies that I rarely go to them for advice. But even without that advice I find it comforting and warming to have them as a strong presence in Charlie's life. The article makes a good point that we don't have the strong bonds we used to because often times our families are moving around so much for jobs that we just don't stick in one place like they did back in the day.
Do your kids have a bond with their grandparents? If they don't, do you fell that there is a void in their life because of it? How do you deal with that?