"Normalize Breastfeeding"

Okay so I recently have had a slight debate with a few other nursing mothers. They are advocates for "normalizing breastfeeding". I was wondering if anyone on here could give their personal opinion on the issue. I have a strong opinion and I do not plan on bashing anyone or criticizing anyone's beliefs. I will weigh in my thoughts BUT not in an aggressive way. I simply would like to see the different opinions on it and also what OLDER moms have to say. (I am only 20... so are the moms I have discussed with and I want to see if opinions are different as the age of the mother increases.)
Thank you(:

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    06/26/14
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    06/26/14
    In the discussion I had with others they are arguing that breastfeeding should be normalized in the sense that "breast is not a sexual part of the body and should not be seen as nothing more than a feeding source for the baby". While I agree that it is definitely an excellent source of food for your baby, I do not agree with feeding uncovered. I personally believe in ways to work around the feedings and working with my baby. I have only had to feed in public a handful of times AND I am always covered. I see where you are coming from on how children will not make a big deal out of it sooner or later... But I have a little boy and personally I do not want to be out getting groceries and see someone with their breast out. A teenage boy or a boy entering puberty is not going to see that has a source of food. It is going to be something that they find attractive. They can not help this. Humans have always been that way. I understand that some women are wanting breast to be seen as just a feeding source (so they say), BUT I must ask, how many of those women own a push up bra, wear slightly revealing clothing, have ever fixed their chest in order to feel attractive? In that case, doesn't that make breast a sexual thing because you are wanting to attract the opposite sex by making them more appealing?
    Thank you for your opinion. (: I have weighed in my opinion and by no means am 'attacking" anyone feel free to discuss what you don't agree with in what I have said (:
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    06/26/14
    I can agree with that. No matter how "normal" breastfeeding becomes, the breast will still also be seen sexually. I think our society is -way- to stuck on that to get over that part, even if uncovered BF in public becomes a normal, unremarked on thing. Clothing for women is almost entirely based on looking good, showing off your breasts or your shape. Don't get me wrong, I want people to be able to BF how they want without being ridiculed, but I just don't think we'll ever get over the sexual part of it. What you said about a teenage boy, too. Even if they grow up knowing there's nothing wrong with BF, if they see that in public, they'll feel something or other. They're teenagers. Hormones are running wild, and all sorts of new feelings are out and about in their brains. Maybe even for some girls.
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      Normalizing breastfeeding?
      (I just looked it up)
      I don't think breastfeeding should be automatically assumed to be the norm. I think both breastfeeding and formula should be equally encouraged. I'm only almost 23, and I breastfed my daughter for 3 months, and that was all I could stand of it. I -hated- it. It made me almost hate my baby, because it hurt a -lot-, and I was incredibly depressed, and I thought that if I switched to formula I would be judged and people would make me feel like a bad mother. So I guess I'm against it. I think both should be accepted equally. I don't like how people are trying to get back to "Nature's Roots" type thing lately, of "This is the natural way, so it's how we -should- do everything"
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        06/26/14
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          06/26/14
          I do agree that in America is a different deal... But it has been driven that way. How popular is porn and using the woman body as a sexual thing in movies, magazines, and advertising? In some of those countries they can walk around naked and it is fine. Would you feel comfortable walking around in America naked? I wouldn't. America is a different country and has built society around Hollywood and those with all the luxuries and money.It is all driven around sex and sexual advertising. You cannot expect people to just stop seeing something as sexual when it is used a sexual incentive for so many things.
          I do not think that a young boy will see it as tawdry but if he see the greater part of a woman's breast he is going to be interested in looking.
          I know. My son loathes being covered and that is why IF I have to feed in public I A: go to the restroom away from husbands and young boys or B: I feed in our car before we do whatever it is we are doing.
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            06/26/14
            Breastfeeding itself is not sexual. I never once have claimed that the breastfeeding is sexual, BUT when the breast is exposed (with seeing nipple or not) a young boy is going to see that breast and his hormones are going to go wild.
            Personally, I rather feed privately in a restroom or in my car (which has a/cand heater). I know that my husband, the father to my baby, sees me breastfeed every day and still he is attracted to my breast. Therefore, no matter how much it is seen the breast (not breastfeeding) will still be a sexual interest.
            Sexual advertising is still an issue. You see it on every corner, a lot of movies, commercials, and so much more. They know if they use the woman body and show breasts and other things then people will buy it and/or watch it. It brings in sexual attention. It makes people look. SEX SALES.. and they use the woman body (including breast) to accomplish this. IF people want to normalize it in the sense to stop the sexual side of it THEN they must stop buying into that, not fix their breasts and bodies to be sexually appealing to others, and treat their breasts like "only a feeding source".
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              06/26/14
              I have three younger brothers. I have 17 year old and a 14 year old... they both are obviously at that point in life where the hormones are wild... Unfortunately people want them to "control thoughts and actions" but they are new to the hormones and their bodies are going insane. They are embarrassed and try to not let it get crazy but at that point in life if they see something that is sexually appealing to them their hormones do what they will. Yes, they do not act upon it but they cannot control nature and the way their body works.
              I think that (as a mother to a little boy) I do not and will continue to disagree with uncovered nursing. It is "not fair to shame moms who NIP" but how is it fair for you to do what you want but then get upset because a pubescent male is seeing your breast and is not seeing it as a "feeding source" ? If it "isn't fair" to one then you shouldn't make in fair to the other. Breastfeeding is a wonderful thing and I absolutely love it, but as far as nursing in front of people I prefer for that to stay a private matter. I know it is a natural way to feed our babies, but I know that I have managed to work around feedings and going out. I do not have to feed in public. This is sometimes a hassle but in respect to my husband (who doesn't want me to show any private parts to the world) and others who it makes uncomfortable I find ways to do what's best for my baby in a respectable way.
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                06/26/14
                See the thing is the people who I have experienced do make a big deal about how others react. They get aggressive when someone doesn't agree with NIP and they lash out and act disrespectful. You are not like that. I am grateful for people who are not rude when they express an opinion. We are all different and no one is going to have the same exact way of thinking.
                As I said THEY DO NOT ACT upon it BUT they can not help that a breast is sexually attractive and makes their hormones kick in. They never are disrespectful and never do anything inappropriate. We were raised way better than that.
                Thank you. I know they are only defending their opinion but when they are willing and have confidence to do something so controversial then they should not act so mean and disrespectful when people do not agree with it. They knew that it makes a lot of people uncomfortable before doing. They shouldn't act surprised when people don't change their beliefs just because they are doing it.
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