Okay so I recently have had a slight debate with a few other nursing mothers. They are advocates for "normalizing breastfeeding". I was wondering if anyone on here could give their personal opinion on the issue. I have a strong opinion and I do not plan on bashing anyone or criticizing anyone's beliefs. I will weigh in my thoughts BUT not in an aggressive way. I simply would like to see the different opinions on it and also what OLDER moms have to say. (I am only 20... so are the moms I have discussed with and I want to see if opinions are different as the age of the mother increases.)
Thank you for your opinion. (: I have weighed in my opinion and by no means am 'attacking" anyone feel free to discuss what you don't agree with in what I have said (:
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I don't think breastfeeding should be automatically assumed to be the norm. I think both breastfeeding and formula should be equally encouraged. I'm only almost 23, and I breastfed my daughter for 3 months, and that was all I could stand of it. I -hated- it. It made me almost hate my baby, because it hurt a -lot-, and I was incredibly depressed, and I thought that if I switched to formula I would be judged and people would make me feel like a bad mother. So I guess I'm against it. I think both should be accepted equally. I don't like how people are trying to get back to "Nature's Roots" type thing lately, of "This is the natural way, so it's how we -should- do everything"
I do not think that a young boy will see it as tawdry but if he see the greater part of a woman's breast he is going to be interested in looking.
I know. My son loathes being covered and that is why IF I have to feed in public I A: go to the restroom away from husbands and young boys or B: I feed in our car before we do whatever it is we are doing.
Personally, I rather feed privately in a restroom or in my car (which has a/cand heater). I know that my husband, the father to my baby, sees me breastfeed every day and still he is attracted to my breast. Therefore, no matter how much it is seen the breast (not breastfeeding) will still be a sexual interest.
Sexual advertising is still an issue. You see it on every corner, a lot of movies, commercials, and so much more. They know if they use the woman body and show breasts and other things then people will buy it and/or watch it. It brings in sexual attention. It makes people look. SEX SALES.. and they use the woman body (including breast) to accomplish this. IF people want to normalize it in the sense to stop the sexual side of it THEN they must stop buying into that, not fix their breasts and bodies to be sexually appealing to others, and treat their breasts like "only a feeding source".
I think that (as a mother to a little boy) I do not and will continue to disagree with uncovered nursing. It is "not fair to shame moms who NIP" but how is it fair for you to do what you want but then get upset because a pubescent male is seeing your breast and is not seeing it as a "feeding source" ? If it "isn't fair" to one then you shouldn't make in fair to the other. Breastfeeding is a wonderful thing and I absolutely love it, but as far as nursing in front of people I prefer for that to stay a private matter. I know it is a natural way to feed our babies, but I know that I have managed to work around feedings and going out. I do not have to feed in public. This is sometimes a hassle but in respect to my husband (who doesn't want me to show any private parts to the world) and others who it makes uncomfortable I find ways to do what's best for my baby in a respectable way.
As I said THEY DO NOT ACT upon it BUT they can not help that a breast is sexually attractive and makes their hormones kick in. They never are disrespectful and never do anything inappropriate. We were raised way better than that.
Thank you. I know they are only defending their opinion but when they are willing and have confidence to do something so controversial then they should not act so mean and disrespectful when people do not agree with it. They knew that it makes a lot of people uncomfortable before doing. They shouldn't act surprised when people don't change their beliefs just because they are doing it.