House sharing & Bad Housekeeping

As some of you know, Erik and I are currently house sharing with 3 other males. One of them is a male in his late 20s/early 30s who is a good person overall, just his housekeeping and sense of cleanliness is horrible!

Pet Peeve #1: This man will use his shirt or pants to wipe away the water after washing his butcher knife that he leaves communal in the kitchen. It's the only knife that actually works to cut meats/poultry, etc.

Pet Peeve #2: He will dirty all the dishes before he runs a load in the dishwasher. Sometimes we are down to 1 or 2 dinner size plates before he will bring out the rest that he kept in his room. Gross!!!!

Pet Peeve #3: I feel like he takes advantage of other room mates' generosity of washing his dishes that he leaves in the sink. *Mainly mine* I don't mind washing your dishes if you leave a couple behind, not a big deal. But if you're consistently leaving behind pots and pans and other utensils that you've used in order to make your meal and you leave it sitting on the kitchen counter or in the sink, have some common courtesy and wash it by the next morning...

Pet Peeve #4: Out of the 5, 4 of us share 1 bathroom. He leaves his tangled hair in the shower and doesn't throw them away. Really??? You can't take your tangled fur ball mess into the garbage so it doesn't end up clogging the drain???

Pet Peeve #5: I rarely ever see him wash his hands in the kitchen when he prepares food. Makes me want to puke when he offers me something he's made.

Pet Peeve #6: I've never witnessed him do any kind of light housekeeping around the house while the rest of us mow/edge the lawn, sweep/mop the kitchen and living room floors, clean the bathroom.

Pet Peeve #7: If you know that the dish washer is used as a drying rack, the least you can do is take out the already dry dishes and put them away. DON'T MIX clean and dirty dishes together. Erik and I have told him politely in casual conversation that any dishes he sees inside the dish washer are clean.

Pet Peeve #8: It is not okay to give my shoulders a brief squeeze while we're near each other. I've never invited the gesture. When I tense my shoulders after you have squeezed them with your dirty hands, isn't that enough body language to tell you NOT to do it a 2nd time???

Had to rant about this room mate. We move in less than 2 months. Erik says it's not worth it to be a taddle tale to our landlord because we're not staying much longer and because these are all in-house issues that need to be addressed amongst those who live here, We don't have floor meetings or anything like that, and now I wish something like that was instituted so we all know what everyone's standards are and to come to some kind of middle ground.

Anyone have any suggestions? Erik left a note beside the sink with all of room mate's dirty dishes and asked that whomever dishes they are to get washed & that any dishes inside dish washer are clean. He said that he didn't want to point the finger at anyone even though we all know whose dishes they are lol.

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    06/27/14
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        06/27/14
        Well.. I get your pet peeves, my ex's friends would stay at our house and leave a HUGE mess... As far as the shoulder squeezing...he would have gotten a heel to the balls the second time-he's clearly flirting with you.
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        06/28/14
        Yes, I do think he's flirting. Sounds like you found a good one to keep his cool like that, though. :)
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          06/28/14
          !!!!!!ERIK!!!!! Actually he is the one to continue to speak to, now I am not saying to nag, but I don't know your financial predicament but this should be a lesson learned! Get your crap together, what happens if the baby is born while you two are still there! Try to lay low, but be not afraid to speak out, now the fact that the men outnumber you, you will be easily profiled as a nag or, B----,or Mommie Dearest, these are tools they will try to use to distract you from the obvious, to make you turn on yourself! don't drop hints like "I wish someone will flush the toilet so that I don't have to see their remains!" maybe- EH! You! Dirty south flush the toilet, Maryjane I am feeling for you girl, this makes me so angry, and I know you love your man but help him to understand that you never want to fall into something like this again; and I know that we can't prevent all catastrophes but still speak out! I'll be praying for you!
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          06/29/14
          This is Erik's birthday weekend so will wait until the kids go home at end of 4th of July weekend to tell him that he needs to step up. I'm really, really annoyed at coming back with the sink still full of the same dirty dishes by said room mate. It's like really??? Now it's just plain disrespectful. It wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't as far along and could still stand in one spot for more than 15 minutes.

          I'm the only one bringing in the income while Erik works with Voc Rehab. It's soooooo frustrating right now. I'll probably post a rant about that one when it really bothers me.
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              About MaryJane
              Birth: March 25
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              Pregnant back to back. I have a baby girl and another on the way. I'm also a pseudo-step mom to 2 tweens.