No sex drive.

I know it's odd, but I really need advice on how to get my sex drive back. I'm NEVER in the mood to do anything anymore. I feel bad because me and my fiance haven't done anything in 3 months. The first 2 months was because of my depo shot. It caused me to have a period the whole time. But since I have been off I haven't been "in the mood". I don't know what to do. Every time he wants to do anything I feel like crap because I really don't. And it's not because I'm not attracted to him anymore which is something he always jokes about. Which makes me feel even worse. I'm only 21 years old, I didn't think I would have these problems yet. Would it be possible that it is a side effect from the birth control? :(

    Try talking to your man about how you feel. I know it may be hard but he needs to know exactly how you feel. It's only fair to him. It sounds to me that he wants to please you and I know it can be hard at times but sometimes we need to let loose to feel good about ourselves. Try some new things, go find a book or read up on the internet how to maybe spice things up to get you into the mood? that is where I would start.

    Good luck, we are all here for you
      Totally normal hon. I went from feeling like this spunky cute younger girlfriend to.. oh dear God I've been wearing moomoos for months and now I'm a mom and not a cute younger girlfriend anymore and OH MY GOD...

      lol it's silly now when I say it. There's a different feel of sexy when we become mothers. It's no more or less than it was, it's just different. Little by little we learn to embrace that and we all do it in a different way and in our own time.

      This is what I do when I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed and stressed.

      Make a list of everything on my mind. Even the little petty stuff like ugh the toilet paper roll is EMPTY! GAHHH!

      Next, fix the ones you can. Put that roll of toilet paper on.

      Next, cross out the ones you can do nothing about. Hormones can reek havoc. Give the depo shot time to do it's thing and keep communication up with your doctor so he or she knows what symptoms and/or side effects your experiencing.

      Before you know it, that super long list that was stressing you out is whittled down to a few things, then make a plan and tackle them :)
        You could just be so exhausted from the things going on in your life that its just the last thing on your mind. Maybe just go through with it anyway sometimes once you are in the act it sparks things. There could be lots of reasons preventing you from being in the mood. Its all normal especially with a new baby around. Try to find a way to relax and shut your mind off for a bit. Maybe take a nice hot bubble bath with some scented candles and ask him to join you. Maybe taking some time to just relax together can help melt some stress and tension and you can finally relax enough to get in the mood.
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        Being a mom is the best thing to ever happen to me. It's wonderful most of the time but sometimes it is scary too. I made this to see if I could pick up some tips on raising my baby girl.