Irritated!!

I'm so irritated because my husbands family only thinks of one child!! I don't know what to do, if i say something it starts a fight and if i don't say anything to them then nothing will change. My husband has one son from a prier relationship and i have 2 from a prier and we have one together and his family doesn't even think about the one we have together. They say well i helped raise him for the first couple of years i have he right to see him when i want to. They always take him when we should have all the kids so he is the only one to leave and then they bring him back with presents and tell him that the other kids can't play with them. I just want to scream because they will look at the other kids and tell them that its not their time but their time never comes. I feel bad for the other kids to always watch my one son leave all the time and have people tell them that they are grandma and auntie but never want to spend time with them. I can't understand how people can pick and chose what grandchild gets to be in the family and not care about the other children. I was not raised that way if someone got with or married someone with children they would automatically be treated like family they were never ignored because blood didn't run the the child/ren. Do you guys have any opinion

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4AllenaRockford, Illinois
06/30/14
4Allena
Jenny I have tried that and then my husband gets the blunt end of everything because i am taking away their grandchild and that's not right. They will fight with him until he gives in to them. They tell him that its our son right to spend one on one time with his family, but then they turn around and get mad when i make plans with the other 3 children when our son leaves they say that it not fair to leae him out of our plans and should makes plans with all the kids when they dont want him or have the time to take him and think think that my other 3 kids shouldnt do anything with out the other. Its like they are making the rules as they go and change them to fit their needs
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    06/30/14
    We have a rule in our house...if you don't treat both boys equally then you don't get to know either of them. My step son is treated the same by my parents as the son I gave birth to. My MIL needs more help in this area and is not allowed to see the kids for that very reason right now.
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      06/30/14
      4Allena
      I totally agree with that don't get me wrong i can totally undersand only takin gone kids at a time because alot of people can't handle all 4 at one time but its the fact the the other dont even get the chance it makes me so mad
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        06/30/14
        Yeah if I had 4 I would never expect someone to take all 4 lol but like you said at least give them turns. I wouldn't let them take their favorite until they have given all the kids a turn. But I know it's hard to implement a plan like that.
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        About Allena
        Born: Belvidere, Illinois
        Current: Rockford, Illinois
        Birth: September 11
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        Hello i am a stay at home mother of 4. One with ADHD and ODD. Life is difficult but manageable. I try my hardest to give my children what they need and want. I love to read books and spend all the time i can with the kids.