Abortion debate (this topic may be a trigger for abuse victims)
The topic of abortion is often strongly debated. Those who are against it feel that the fetus has the same rights as a sentient person and therefore may not have their life terminated. Others feel that a fetus is not a sentient being and does not carry the same rights as a person living outside of the womb.
The big difference seems to come down to if the pregnancy happened by willing sex, or rape. I have heard time and again "I am pro life except in the case of rape or incest", which to me says you are pro choice but feel there should be limits. I digress though.
So my question is, if a person of child bearing age is raped and becomes pregnant should they be allowed to terminate the pregnancy in a safe, medical setting? Why or why not?
I know this is a hot topic so PLEASE keep in mind that we want to be respectful of all beliefs, even ones we don't agree with.
I used to be very anti choice, actually. My thought process has evolved through lots of thought, contemplation, debates with other people who taught me some things and realization that life is absolutely not as black and white as we would like it to be.
And I really hate the "there is always adoption" line. Adoption is NOT the answer that everyone seems to think it is. It isn't a kitten you are rehoming. It is a 9 month pregnancy and a woman who has to try to heal from something that most of us couldn't even begin to imagine (in the case of rape). And woman isn't always accurate either, this happens to females of child bearing age, not just grown women.
I've always been pro-choice, and even when we went to the clinic, I remember seeing women in tears at what they were going to do, some who seemed to not care, and others who were carrying on smiling and talking. Sometimes, I feel sick at the thought that I tried to abort Nina, when I see her cute little face now, or when she runs over to hug my leg for a moment, cuddle, and then toddle off again...but I still think everyone deserves a choice. We almost -ALMOST- decided to put the baby up for adoption when she was born, but there was no way in hell I was going to carry it for 9 months, something Trevor and I had made, however intentionally, and give it away to some strangers to never see again. I wasn't going to deal with that heartbreak. I know now that even if I were to be pregnant right now, no matter how inconvenient it is and how unready we are, I wouldn't think of abortion or adoption again. Not after Nina.
But that's just me. If someone else decides that for them self, who am I to tell them "no"?
My SIL insists that putting up a baby for Adoption is almost as bad as an Abortion, since there are already so very many kids already in need of a home...this is why she says she's never going to have a baby, and instead is going to adopt one one day, when she's more financially stable.
Anyone who is a rape victim knows that having to prove rape would be traumatic. There's not always semen left behind, it's your word against theirs... it's just not something I would ever wish on another woman.
And people think adoption is a miracle cure, but I don't think they REALLY understand how the adoption industry works.
One of my high school friends was adopted as a baby, and so was her sister. Both have different birth mothers, but one of them keeps in touch with her birth mom. Her adoptive mother said it took YEARS of going through the adoption process to, not only be approved, but for back ground checks, home checks, family checks, finding someone who wanted to put their kid up for adoption or even trying to find an older kid to adopt. They're not bad people at all, but from what I understand, adoption agencies are -really- picky.