Our Evening Ritual - It's on.
I am really having a hard time with my boys. They do not listen to me, at all. I have taken three parenting classes, tried any ideas that come my way and nothing seems to work. They constantly fight (which I know is going to happen) but the fighting with me needs to stop. I have tried time out, taking things away from them, grounding, anything and everything you can think of. Nothing seems to work. For instance, last night I told my boys that once they got out of the pool and came in the house that they were not allowed back in the pool. They came in, each got in the warm bath and we had company so I was visiting with my friend. I walk outside and my boys are both in the pool. So I told them they needed to come inside because they were told not to get in again. My 5 year old came in and started playing with my friends kids but my 6 year old ran from me. I went back in the house, assuming he had came in the front door. I started talking again and I heard splashing. I walked out the back door and he was in the pool again. I said ok Ricky, you are done, I am going to have to stop you from getting in the pool for a few days since you are choosing not to listen. He ran in the house, slammed the doors all the way in and then started screaming and crying. I went outside and listened for him and he cried for about 5 more minutes and realized that I had went outside. He came outside and said he was sorry and we hugged. I walked towards the front of the house and my friends heard him call me a devil! She was really upset, I hadn't heard it and went and told him that was not o.k and he needed to apologize. He did but then he just ran away from me again. I am exhausted! This is a regular occurence (not the devil part) but with my 6 year old getting so angry that nothing calms him down. All 3 of my boys are in counseling (their counselors come to the house and work with them) but the counselors have the boys individually so they are not seeing this behavior. I almost feel like they don't believe me. I just don't know what to do anymore. I actually told my boys that I was going to call that Super Nanny woman and have her move in with us! hahaha. Anyway, I know this is super long but if anyone can help, I am all ears. I am willing to try anything. (Bribing has also been a tactic I have used but always backfires) I am trying really hard to talk to them after they hit each other and explain to them that no one likes getting hit, or toys taken away, or whatever it is and that they need to treat other people how they want to be treated and we do not have a single issue when they are at daycare. They do not fight with any of the other children, or each other, but when it's home it's gloves off and war time around our house every evening.