Do you feel yourself understood by your partner?

As any woman I often feel myself not enough understood by my hubby... Sometimes he just makes me crazy with doing or saying something like "I just didn't thought about it", when I'm talking about important things...
I know we are really different - men and woman, but is it really a big deal to understand my feelings?
What about you? Do you feel yourself understood by your partner?

Do you feel yourself understood by your partner?
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    07/02/14
    amanda
    Sometimes yes and sometimes no. We try to find common ground. We are still working on our communication skills to better understand what each other wants and compromise. For the most part we are on the same page. Which is not much we could have said about a year ago so it is a big improvement.
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    07/02/14
    What do you say to him when he goes a wrong way? I tried a lot of variants - no changes).
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    07/02/14
    amanda
    It all depends on the situation. We actually went to marriage counseling for a few months and it helped to have a third party help put things into a perspective that we hadn't seen things in before. We just try to find a common ground even if we don't agree about something we try to compromise. It took a long time for us to both realize what we were doing wrong. For instance I was paying for our rent, bills etc for a long time while he was blowing all of his money on nonsense and I kept trying to get through to him about how I needed his help not only financially but also at home. It took a series of unfortunate events which eventually ended with me losing my job while I was 5 months pregnant with our third child. At that point we had just started counseling and stuck it out as long as we could afford it. The tables really turned when my fiance had to start paying all of the bills and finally sat down with me one night and told me that he had no idea how I did it month to month and took care of everything at home. He never realized how hard things were for me until he was in my shoes. Essentially all the hard times we fell on actually brought us closer. It was definitely a make or break point in our lives and I am glad it became a turning point for us. Its definitely a defining moment in our relationship.
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      07/02/14
      My husband is VERY lucky because I am a pretty simple person to figure out...and I always tell him EXACTLY what is wrong if there was something that upset me. So I feel completely understood :-)
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        07/02/14
        Most of the time he gets me.
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          07/02/14
          Danielle Keltner
          Very much. Sometimes I try not to have a breakdown and have a crying fit. I'm saying this because yes it gets the hubby's attention, but the aftermath of feeling like I failed from having to cry to get my way like one of my children makes me want to cry more. We finally sat down and worked out more deep reasons on both sides. For me: I want my husband at home and helping with putting up curtains. Yes I could do these things myself. I have also learned that if I stand on the chair and turn my back - the kids will take over a task that i have yet to get to. We live really close to his parents so he helps them and they help us. But personal projects I am left in the dark. I'm quiting trying to open a business in compromise that he helps me around the house. We were given jars (decorated) to hold flour, sugar, and etc but no shelves so they are sitting in a box. Almost a year now. I tried having a business so I could get those pretty things for myself. Last three years everything has been to kids. I am that person in walmart that comes with spit up and messy bun, but three kids entertained and no screaming because walmart is our get a way from the house and cheap family entertainment. Yes I'm a redneck if you want to think of me as that. I grew up staring at the fancy objects in my grandmothers house meaning I was her little Cinderella. She taught me that if you have something nice you have to keep or clean to keep it longer. Over the years I went into all the boutiques and could probably tell you the base price. Then I met my wrangler wearing husband. He knew of the square but never shopped on the square unless you consider subway. I'm joking btw on some of this but we were from two different worlds. I traded the idea of living in the city for the happy country life. It is hard adjusting and I miss having girly things. Such as nail polish... I can only think of what is best for the kids. Either raise my daughter thinking that she has to have a mad fit (like me) to have nailpolish OR stay positive and earn the nail polish. It's mind over matter. Bottom line: find the source for the symptoms.
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            07/02/14
            The first 3 years of our marriage we battle with communication. Mainly because we had two completely different styles. When I became pregnant with Cullen I saw a HUGE change in how he communicated with me. Instead of getting frustrated and assuming he knew what I was talking about, he actually started to listen to me. I also became more aware of how my hormones were affecting my attitude and so together we learned how to communicate in a better manner. We discussed how our communication has improved and we continue to work on making it better each day.

            On another note, yes there are days where I still want to bonk him on the head and say "What were you thinking????" I refrain however because that just wouldn't encourage positive communication in the future!! BA HA HA HA :)
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              07/02/14
              Jeanette sumner
              me and my guy get along very well but some time I do not under stand him.
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                07/02/14
                5Jen
                My husband and I are going on our 15 yr. ann, together for 21 years. I gotta say, for a few years we really had to work on communication (like most couples) gradually we worked out the kinks. Going on our fifth child, one with Autism, I'll tell ya, if you want to make it work, you force good communication skills :) So, yes my husband totally gets me. But pregnant me??????? Just kidding, he's great!
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                  07/02/14
                  8Theresa Gould
                  I would have to say my husband has grown to understand me most of the time but we've been married 20 years. It didn't happen overnight.
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                    07/06/14
                    As a whole, I think Erik has a pretty good understanding of me. We're opposites in that I'm sensitive about certain things and Erik just lets it slide off his back. Some things I want addressed and to talk about until I'm blue in the face. Some things he doesn't think are even worth addressing. It can be frustrating because we have different ideas of how things should be. We grew up in different cultures and have different heritages so that adds to some of our disagreements on things.
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