Are you judgmental?
I witnessed a sad exchange in the grocery store the other day. When I say sad I mean it made me a bit angry. When I say it made me a bit angry I mean it's a good thing my boy was with me so that I maintained my temper.
The thin woman behind me thought it was her business to tell the larger woman in front of me that vegetables would be more healthy for the toddler sitting her cart than potato chips would be.
Who actually does this?
The woman in front of me clearly thought she had to explain herself, because she did. Those chips were an item that she was bringing for a potluck bbq.
"Still, you could help those around you by not eating things like that."
I immediately wondered if she would have said anything at all if the woman in front of me was also thin. Probably not. Which of course made me think of the times people have said something to me at the ice cream shop, but nothing to my thin friend.. who was also at the ice cream shop.
I have posted with most of you for months now. I know how sweet and caring and encouraging you are. But I have to know... when you see a bigger woman engaging in unhealthy behavior, does it strike a different chord than if you see a thinner woman doing the same? I'm not asking if you think it should matter. Obviously it shouldn't, we all know that. But deep down does it make you a bit judgmental?
Now, as a doula/childbirth educator I do counsel my clients on their eating habits if I have a concern. BUT, I do so in an educational way and not to hurt their feelings.
That's not making an excuse for my big butt. Hopefully I'll figure it out someday. But that's still nobody's business.