How can I get my 5 year old to stop picking up the baby?!!!

Ella loves her sister. She loves to hug her and kiss her. Unfortunately she also loves to pick her up without asking. She has done this many many times and I've explained to her that she is too little to pick up baby by herself. She could drop her and baby would get hurt or worse but she still picks her up. The last time she did it was last night. She gave Grace a lick of her licorice and when I saw she was holding the baby I told her to put Grace down. She tossed her in her bassinet!!! :z Grace spit the licorice up. OMG I was going crazy insane! I don't know what to do :( What do you mommies think? I don't spank. It doesn't work anyway :p We take things away that she REALLY loves but she still acts up. Time outs aren't working either. They don't seem to faze her. She gets up and does something else that she shouldn't be doing :( She is a really sweet and loving little girl. I don't know what to do :(

How can I get my 5 year old to stop picking up the baby?!!!
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    07/03/14
    8Theresa Gould
    Do you let her hold her regularly with supervision or while sitting down? Do you have her help you with the baby throughout the day so she gets her "baby fill"?

    We had a scare when our oldest was 5 and our youngest at the time was a baby, she picked him up and carried him across the room but fell and I didn't know how hard they hit or anything so we took him in to get checked out. She didn't do that again. Not that I want that to happen to your girls but sometimes, like with my oldest, she has to learn the hard way. They don't seem to get the seriousness of the situation otherwise. Our oldest was the only one we really had an issue with.
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      07/03/14
      I think you probably need to be really consistent about talking to her when she has done this, or better yet, when she hasn't... that she can do many OTHER things for the baby.. maybe list them or make a board?? And if it isn't on the board, she cannot do it... ie... pick out clothes, sing to the baby, tell you if she's crying, bring her her bottle.. etc.. but if it isn't LISTED out.. she may not do it.. thus, don't write, pick up the baby :) Maybe things need to be more visual? Just an idea!
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      I have an off the wall seven year old and a curious two year old. I love both of my girls and can't imagine life without them. I'm in my first semester of college right now at the age of 27. I'm studying to be a nurse.