Your feedback please - Do you think what I did is justified?

So I've had a couple posts on here complaining about house sharing and one room mate in particular. This room mate knocks on our bedroom door this morning and asks Erik if he would drop off his rent money to our landlord if he's going out that way. Erik agrees to. Me in my head: WTH are you doing favors for him when he can't even clean up after himself???

As of half an hour ago, I see the envelope with his rent money on the coffee table and wrote on the outside of the envelope a letter that I believe is long over due.

I write something along the lines of: No, so-so, we are not going to drop off your rent money. We are not doing you any more favors. You won't even clean up after yourself. I'm stuck doing your dishes because I can't stand to look at them anymore. We even wrote you a kind letter asking that you'd wash your dishes and after a week they were still in the sink. You leave your hair balls on the side of the shower for others to clean up. ETC ETC

Then I shoved the envelope with money under his bedroom door. At this point, I'm so irritable coming back to find a mess in the kitchen again... I can't stand it anymore.

I told Erik and saids, "But I already told him I would. I'm not making any special trips out there since I'm headed that way anyway." Me: You've made me re-nig on some things I've told people I would do and you pointed out why. I remained a united front with you on those things.

So, would you have done what I did? What would you have done differently?

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    07/05/14
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      Erik is always talking about how his word is golden, and if he agrees to something then he wants to follow through. I call BS & hypocrisy...what does that say about me when I've agreed to something and Erik disagrees, yet we both want to be a united front about something? If it's a minor something that I've agreed to, I'll give in to Erik and be the bigger person just to avoid a fight and to show him that our relationship matters more than that stupid favor.
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        Erik & I have already had some heated arguments in the communal living room. It's no surprise that they know we're not united on some things. If the room mate does try to make life worse for me, I'm going to the landlord. I've suffered long enough in silence for the room mate to just walk on everyone and not do a darn thing to help clean around the house. It would be Erik and I moving, and I just need 3 more weeks to save up for a security deposit. Today we put in our 30 day notice,
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          I don't think the room mate read it. Erik knocked on his door asking for the envelope since he was on the way to see our landlord. The room mate barely opened his bedroom door and kicked the envelope to Erik's feet. I think the room mate was barely awake. But the next time he asks me how I'm doing, which we usually cross paths in the kitchen while I'm washing dishes, I'm letting him have it....

          "I'm not doing so hot. It sucks to clean up after others even after a friendly note with a request asking that dishes get washed. And after a week of them still sitting on the counter and sink, I'm tired of looking at it. It's disgusting and unsanitary. So yeah, I'm pretty fuming pissed."
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            07/06/14
            !How do you feel!, conscience wise, did you regret this action later on, that could be false guilt, I hear that you are suffering! This is still a toughy but life goes on; he will heal.....
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              I so agree! He came out today and tried to start a friendly convo. I gave a lot of 1 worded answers and wouldn't look at him. I was on moms.com so he probably just thought I was preoccupied rather than curt.

              He did ask how I was doing, and I hesitated which he pointed out. That could've been my cue to let him know my concerns but was too chicken. I'm better on paper than confronting face to face. Sucks to be like that.

              I was going to stick a note under his door. Erik found out and told me I would be causing more harm than good & no point since we're gone in a few weeks anyway. In some ways I feel like I'm being bullied like I have no voice because I'm scared that standing up for myself will raise hell in this household. Makes me question if I want to stay with someone like Erik because he pussy foots around others and doesn't understand how frustrated I am.
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              I wish you lived next door...LOL... so I could role play. I've heard this same room mate complain about how other people were complaining to him about dishes and plates. I'm thinking "well, you hoarded them all into your room and they're dirty. None are left in the kitchen cupboards. What do you expect????" I know I will probably come off as complaining to him, and I really want my talk with him to count and to make a difference.

              I like the "Can I have a moment with you?" That makes for a great friendly transition.
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