Some advice from those of you that have had trouble conceiving
My sister in law and I are very close. I am just 6 months younger than her (she is 2.5 years younger than my husband), and we actually knew each other before my husband and I had ever met. She and her husband have 1 child, a 6 year old daughter and have been trying for 5 years to have a second one. The stress on their family and marriage has been high, understandably. And they are super overprotective of their daughter, also understandably.
I guess my question for you is as follows - how much (if anything) can or should I say to my SIL about my thoughts on what they are going through? For example, I see how much she is suffering - physically and mentally - with all the fertility drugs and miscarriages, etc. It's awful. I know it's not my decision, but I feel like maybe she just needs to accept that it won't happen and consider adoption or surrogacy. I once brought up the idea of surrogacy, and she flipped - the idea freaks her out. And as for her daughter, she's a sweet girl but very anxious and nervous and overly (in my opinion) attached to her parents. About this, I've never said anything. Honestly, I know it's not really my business, but I care about them a lot, and I hate to see my SIL, BIL and niece suffer this way. Maybe I'm just being insensitive, though, because I was so lucky to never have had any trouble conceiving and giving birth.
Keep my mouth shut or bring it up?
It seems like your a really good friend though. If you want to help I'd just listen. Let her vent and agree with her conclusions. She's always going to be second guessing herself and having someone "on her side" can make a big difference.