i need to think

im thinkin bout aborting or adoption smh im not ready for this at all

If you don't think your bf is the right man to be in your life then you have a right to break up with him. He has a right to be in the child's life if he wants too, but you don't have to be in a relationship with him.

either way, I would wait until you get everything sorted out with him before you make any life-altering decisions about your baby. If you still feel like you can't care for this baby once he's out of the picture then look into your options.
    Dana - that is a horrible feeling! I am sorry you are feeling that way. Were you and your BF back together for a while at the time you got pregnant? I'll be honest with my thoughts: I am not anti-abortion, but I do think that 14 weeks is getting to be too late to abort for sake of convenience (i.e., if it's not a health issue). That's just me...And with every passing week, it becomes tougher and tougher to do. So you need to decide ASAP. Also keep in mind that adoption may not be that easy to do if your boyfriend does not agree. I'm not sure you would actually be allowed to unilaterally give up your child once born. What you can do is make a decision to no longer be with your boyfriend and raise your children on your own. Like the other ladies have said, there are a lot of resources that can assist. The best thing you can do for you and your children (whether you keep this 3rd child or not) is to be with a man who is a good partner and father.
    Have you tried breaking it off with him and he just won't leave you alone? I understand not wanting to be connected to a man who isn't the one. It's got to be hard knowing you'll be connected to him forever through this baby. The truth is whether you keep the child or not you'll still have a connection with him. Unfortunately you can't go back now, the best thing you can do is focus on going forward and figuring out what's best for you and your children.
      I feel for you and hope you figure it all out.my prayers are with you
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      Birth: June 01
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