Finances/budgeting, who does it in your house?
I have always been the one to handle finances and budgeting no matter if I was single or in a relationship. I'm pretty good at it, but honestly I hate budgeting WITH someone else. It seems like when you say "I need $xx for this bill and $xx for that bill" it caused an argument. "Why is the electricity bill that high? Blah blah blah!"
This is one of the reasons I say I want to stay single. I don't have to feel like anyones MOTHER taking their play money away from them. UGH, it's such a turn off!
Does money cause issues in your relationship too? Who does the finances in your relationship?
I think at times yes money or the lack of money because of income at jobs, etc have caused issues in our relationship(it is in most cases a number one cause of divorce or separation), but we have managed to work through it every time somehow. It definitely stinks that we can never and have never taken a family vacation, etc. but I hope that with my soon to be starting work from home job and the other job I am doing now as extra income(home business) will help as well so that we can take that family vacation.
Sometimes my biggest internal issue is that I wish he made more money. Everything really falls to me as the bread winner. That's sort has been the way for me with relationships for most of my life. But it would be nice to be financially taken care of for once. HOWEVER, his schedule allows us to NOT need to do day care, so I can't have my cake and eat it too. I'd rather our daughter be with him during the day, and him make less money, then be in daycare. It's a catch 22. He is planning when both are in school to switching to something more during the day, so he can be with us at night.
Sorry for the long answer...but it's a great topic!