Finances/budgeting, who does it in your house?

I have always been the one to handle finances and budgeting no matter if I was single or in a relationship. I'm pretty good at it, but honestly I hate budgeting WITH someone else. It seems like when you say "I need $xx for this bill and $xx for that bill" it caused an argument. "Why is the electricity bill that high? Blah blah blah!"

This is one of the reasons I say I want to stay single. I don't have to feel like anyones MOTHER taking their play money away from them. UGH, it's such a turn off!

Does money cause issues in your relationship too? Who does the finances in your relationship?

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    07/07/14
    Hubby does it mostly and I pay the bills. I do balance the checkbook as well because I check it daily at times online.

    I think at times yes money or the lack of money because of income at jobs, etc have caused issues in our relationship(it is in most cases a number one cause of divorce or separation), but we have managed to work through it every time somehow. It definitely stinks that we can never and have never taken a family vacation, etc. but I hope that with my soon to be starting work from home job and the other job I am doing now as extra income(home business) will help as well so that we can take that family vacation.
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      07/07/14
      We do it together
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        07/07/14
        8Theresa Gould
        Hmmm...not usually, but I am the spender and he's the hoarder - to the extreme. He still struggles with how much it costs to feed and clothe our crew. He has sticker shock every time I shop and stock up. :) But to his credit, he has only been doing the finances for about three years. He started out doing them when we were first married but I took them over to prove a point and showed I was actually better at it, but then when I started working more and added another business to my plate I told him I couldn't do the personal stuff anymore!
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          07/08/14
          4Marla
          I do the budget and most of the shopping and paying the bills. We are very open about upcoming maintenance that needs to be done or hunting trips to prepare for and that helps us remember to put those in the budget.
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            07/08/14
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              07/08/14
              My husband and I argue all the time about the bills , because he does them
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                07/08/14
                I do the budgeting and bills. I'm a bit controlling when it comes to finances because growing up my father was SO bad at it. My boyfriend is a server at a find dining restaurant, so he is a cash worker. He handles our cell phone bill, but the rest is done by me. Most of our bills come out of my paycheck, so it's not often I need to go to him for his money. I do wish he would just deposit his money to my account so I don't have to ask when I need it...but it hasn't caused too much of an issue. He's never really hording his money for his own needs, he just forgets and hangs onto it.

                Sometimes my biggest internal issue is that I wish he made more money. Everything really falls to me as the bread winner. That's sort has been the way for me with relationships for most of my life. But it would be nice to be financially taken care of for once. HOWEVER, his schedule allows us to NOT need to do day care, so I can't have my cake and eat it too. I'd rather our daughter be with him during the day, and him make less money, then be in daycare. It's a catch 22. He is planning when both are in school to switching to something more during the day, so he can be with us at night.

                Sorry for the long answer...but it's a great topic!
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                  08/05/14
                  My husband does the finances,
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                    08/24/14
                    My husband doesn't really spend much and I do all the budgeting. I know what you mean with the naggy mother feeling though. Like "we don't need another Monster today. You had one yesterday. We're trying to buy a house." But I get wanting the little things in life, but man I hate to be such a downer on him sometimes.
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