pet peeve

One of my pet peeves is when people tell me I spoil my children by doing things that most parents practicing attachment parenting do. Picking them up when they cry, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby-wearing, etc. Well my HUSBAND pulled that card this morning. GGGRRRR!!!! He said she is spoiled because Im still breastfeeding her and she's still sleeping in our bed. He says that those kinds of things are the reason she acts out the way she does......uuuummmmm, NO! She's almost in the terrible twos and she's learning to express herself and assert for the things she wants. All kids go through this phase some are just worse than others.

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4Ariel LaCosteCanyon, Texas
    07/10/14
    4Ariel LaCoste
    thanks ladies. Its not anything new. He and I have always disagreed on our parenting methods. But I think it stems from the type of family upbringing we had. I came from a loving, kept together family oriented family and he came from a broken home from birth. He was given up for adoption, his father dies when he was young and he and his adoptive mother did not get along. He was constantly thrown out. Ultimately he lets me parent how I want because I am the one home with the kids but I just wish he would show me some support. I just want him to see that I am doing what I feel is best for me and the kids. We have gotten better about communicating. We used to fight....a lot! But now we usually can calmly discuss things. Even if we dont agree it doesnt escalate to an argument like it used to. He's very stubborn and set in his ways so I dont know that we will ever see eye to eye on our differences.
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      07/14/14
      4Rina
      I think it is very tough when you have different parenting styles. My husband and I are different as well, but over the years, I've been able to move him a little more in my direction. His family are lovely people, but they were screamers, big time! And he is like that as well, which makes me nuts. Not to say I never scream, but it's far reduces compared to him. Anyway, baby steps, right?
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      About Ariel LaCoste
      Current: Canyon, Texas
      Birth: November 04
      On Moms.com since: Dec 3, 2013
      Im a stay at home mom of 4 beautiful children. I homeschool, co-sleep, breastfeed, babywear and practice attachment parenting including parenting beyond punishment. My children are my world. https://www.etsy.com/people/SketchyCrafts