seperated/divorced mommys

How do you guys deal with your ex? Do they help out? are they apart of your childs life? do you want them to be apart of their life? mine right now is just aggravating me to the point of threatening court to him and maybe im over reracting but id much rather have my son 100 percent of the time and not have to deal with his lazy you know what.

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    07/11/14
    My daughter's father is unpredictable, but he is immature and it's obvious he's not ready to be a father. He does aggravate me often but over the years I've learned that if I let him do what he wants, though it might make me mad, my daughter will eventually get older and realize that he's immature and she'll form her own opinion of him. It's important that you be the bigger person and treat the situation as calmly as possible because if the child sees both of you acting out throughout their life, then they're going to be mad at both of you, and you don't want that. Regardless of how you feel about your ex, make sure your child knows nothing about it and be as civil as possible. It might not be easy, but your child deserves peace in their life, and it's up to you to provide it. I have to be the bigger person for my daughter too, but she's a happier child now that I've chosen to be peaceful with her father. No, I don't agree with his life choices, especially since he's supposed to be a father, but the can't change that. I can't worry about him anymore or that's just gonna stress me out more and ruin my relationship with my daughter. So I choose not to let it bother me as much as possible and we're all better off for it. I hope that helps a little bit.
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      07/11/14
      8Theresa Gould
      I have no experience but am also sorry you struggle with your ex. The others have given you some sound advice, I hope it helps you in your situation.
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      About Holly
      Birth: March 20
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      I am a 20 year old mom with a two year old little boy who means the world to me. Even though I am no longer with his father I have found someone who has a daughter and is great with my son.