Follow up to New Home Search

Yesterday was filled with appointments to meet prospective landlords or property management folks. We found a 1B/1B apartment on the 2nd floor of a dumpy looking apartment, however, the owner said his construction company is going to be working on the apartment complex to get it back in shape. Apparently, the owner has several businesses, one of which had him away for 3 months down South. Totally understandable...I'm grateful there is no lease, just month to month. The inside of the unit that I hope we are approved for * fingers crossed * looks nowhere close to the condition of the outside. Erik and I want to find something fast and move out by Fall. It would be perfect if it was a ground floor unit with laundry hook ups or with a w&d already in the unit. Oh well. At this point, I am hoping I don't have to move in with my mom again until Erik and I can figure out how to get me moved back to this area after baby is born.

For the same price of the apartment unit I just spoke of, a 2B/1B is becoming available next month sometime; I believe the date available is after the baby's due date. We're still going to submit an application. The extra space would mean the kids can have a room to share when they visit instead of crashing in our living room. I can't stand clutter unless I can block the eyesore with a closed door.

Please pray or send my family positive vibes our way out here in the NW area for making good sound decisions on a place to move into. We want cheap but not so cheap that we are concerned about theft and drugs in the area. The price is definitely cheap!

Anyone have any advice to offer? Even if Erik and I get approved on the 2B/1B and we're already in the 1B/1B apartment, I don't foresee being able to save up for move in costs unless we moved mid month. We would be living in a really tight shoe string budget and with new expenses like baby essentials as well as unforeseen expenses, I don't think we would have much extra.

Today we saw a place that is roughly a 30 minute drive away from here. The unit is reasonably priced for a 2B/1.5B, and it's located in a smaller town. It's in the same town as a homeownership program that Erik and I are looking into. The program is a subsidized housing program for low income families to be able to own their home. I'm not fond of the windy country roads nor the gas consumption. It's also scary for me to think about how far away I am from the nearest hospital, and if I would have to drive myself if Erik wasn't around. I figure I could always have the ambulance pick me up - another expense.

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    I wish I was more comfortable driving on windy roads. I tend to go below the speed limit because I need to see beyond what is ahead of me NOT just the little stretch of road that is in front of me, if that makes any sense. It makes me nervous going around the bend or curvy roads because I can't see what is ahead. Cars always pass me which I prefer, and I feel less guilty about holding them up behind me. A 15 minute commute ends up being 30 minutes for me.
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    The only disappointment is no washer and dryer in the unit that we'll most likely qualify for :-) However, for all the wonderful amenities in my house sharing situation that I am giving up, I am also gaining privacy/my sense of personal space and CLEANLINESS. And freedom ---- I can lounge around in lingerie finally. I hope I never have to live with room mates again (who have poor cleaning habits).
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      I will definitely be praying and sending good vibes your way! :)
      Keep us posted!
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      Thanks, Jen! I believe in prayers. I have also found that tithing my 10% gross has always been a saving grace...something always get released in my favor, not the things that I necessarily am expecting or wanting at the time, but I will take any blessing for what it's worth! I tithed last Wednesday evening service and again today. I had been slacking on tithing...I'm wondering if there is any correlation with lack of tithing and us having difficulty finding a home with our preferences. Do you have any thoughts on tithing?
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      Oh MaryJane! I'll do my best in giving you what I believe/practice in tithing. We tithe 10% every Sunday as well. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I tithe because I want to, and the blessing are great when they come. But I believe tithing is only a fraction of being faithful. I am definitely a strong believer of prayer, as well as yourself. I do not believe God allows negative things to happen because you did not tithe a few Sundays, per say!? He wants us to be obeident, yes, but sometimes, things just happen. I do read your posts and I feel as though you are very blessed in life. Yes, you have to deal with some road bumps along the way :) but all in all you are very fortunate! I'm kinda preaching to myself as well, by the way!!! But, the way you have such patience for different situations (not all of us would react in such a respectful manner) shows me you definitely have faith. I lived in a 600 square feet home for over 10 years with four children (and a husband) Housing opportunities would come and go. I knew God had a plan for us, but I didn't know when! Last year we moved into a house literally triple the space. God has a plan for you, everything will work out! Keep the Faith :)
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      Hi Jen. Thanks for your input and sharing! It is very much valued :-) Big wow on the home space before last year's house move. I don't know how you did it with the number in your family. I'm sure you can teach a class on organization in tight quarters. I'm sure you have a strong testimony!!! If I can still be a pretty happy person and feel good about my family life, it doesn't matter to me how many square feet our next home is going to be. I'll put my focus on making our home peaceful and one that is full of love and acceptance That's ultimately what kids need is to feel safe and wanted :-)

      It's been a while since I've tithed my full 10% gross, since May 1st. It felt good to give again today. I really do feel blessed to be with Erik and his kids and then our little one on the way. I use to have issues with jealousy and envy - yeah, I know sad, to admit it openly. I use to pray to ask God to help me overcome any feelings of jealousy and envy in regards to Erik's kids and Erik's time with his kids when they'd visit as well as my envy towards others who didn't struggle financially. God came through one day and put in my heart to allow Erik and his kids to have 1:1 time frequently on those alternate weekends. By doing so, the kids started opening up to me and inviting me to come with them on their outings; his daughter stopped squeezing herself in between us during family movies, etc As for the financial struggle, we still experience it but they're not as impactful as they used to be. We get bummed here and there and have to plan more carefully to do the things we want to do or to time when to buy necessities and such, but the burden has lifted. I don't compare our family struggles with others anymore, and it just makes sense not to fill my time doing something counterproductive like that.

      A combination of tithing and prayer have certainly helped me!
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            About MaryJane
            Birth: March 25
            On Moms.com since: Apr 18, 2014
            Pregnant back to back. I have a baby girl and another on the way. I'm also a pseudo-step mom to 2 tweens.