ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?!!!

My husband's step mother just called us to inform us her daughter (who doesn't take care of her first kid, and is pregnant again) is having twin girls... SHE WANTS US TO ADOPT ONE OF THEM...a lot of talking about how she can't take care of all of them...

I'm in serious shock. Was I Hitler in a past life? I'm seriously starting to wonder what I did to the universe to make it come back at me like this? Jesus.

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    07/16/14
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    07/16/14
    That's what Steven said...Especially because we live in ND and they're in MI. 1500 miles is a long way.
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        07/16/14
        If you do adopt consider taking both, twins should stay together.
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        07/16/14
        Well, thats the issue. Her mother can't have anymore children, she gave all of hers up for adoption at a young age. SO her mother was originally supposed to adopt this baby, but doesn't think she'll be able to handle twins.
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        07/16/14
        Well, kinship adoption is always the best solution. If she gives them up for adoption into the system, it could be a while before they find a permanent home. It's always best to adopt inside the family first. I would just make sure it's all legal and that she can't change her mind a few years down the road. I would sign all the proper paperwork and make sure there's no loopholes for her to jump through later on. I know it's frustrating, but all frustration aside, the primary objective now is to make sure these girls have a home when they're born, and a family who'll do right by them.
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          07/20/14
          That is a massive decision! I think it would be strange, and maybe difficult on the kids, to split them up over such a wide distance.
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          07/20/14
          I agree, Cassaundra, we've decided that it's not a good idea for us right now. It would be different if we got pregnant right now, but to adopt a baby from someone else right now.
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          07/20/14
          Glad you figured out what to do. I think it would definitely be a lot different getting pregnant yourself... having 9 or so months to prepare... and being like BAM! Baby! Would've been difficult.
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          07/20/14
          And the fact that that we live so far away...and I don't want someone to hold over my head that it's not my baby or whatever. I have a VERY particular view on how I would like to raise my children, I know that this particular side of the family does not share my views. I would hate for there to become a problem because of something I want to do for my child...
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          About Kimberley Marshall
          Current: Wyandotte, Michigan
          Birth: March 19
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          Two Angel Babies, first at 5w 3d, October 2013 - second at 6w 05/03/14.