Breastfeeding public

My husband was and is all for me nursing but he can't stand me nursing in public. My dad just visited from out of state. He hated the fact that I nursed our 11 month old in front of my dad. He sat he wants to try again for a girl but.....If we are out in public I either have to use a cover up, go out to the car, OR take the little one and sit on a public toilet and nurse him/her. If I can't respect his feeling in the matter then there is no sense in us having another child. Even in my own home if somebody stops by I have to go hide in the nursery to nurse the baby.

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Susan JoslinEdgewood, Texas
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    07/26/14
    That can be very frustrating. It is hard on some men to have any part of their wives exposed. I wasn't comfortable nursing in public without a cover so me and my husband didn't have that issue. There were a few times that it became so natural I alms it forgot to cover up and he would say something...I normally ignored it. But if I wasn't the way I am I'm sure my husband would have had a lot more to say about it.
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      07/26/14
      My hubby is the same way...But I always use a cover when somebody is over or when we are out, so it isn't that big of a deal. The only time i've nursed without a cover at home with somebody visiting is if it's one of our moms.
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        07/26/14
        Susan Joslin
        I get hot very easy and so does the lo. When I was pregnant we called him my little personal furnace. I would take 2-3 cold showers every day sometimes. When he was born he was in the nicu for a week and they had trouble keeping a steady because when wrapped up his temp would go up. He runs warm so when we would use a cover both of use would come out sweating. Junior won't even leave a cover on now. And my hubby knows that. I am pretty good at nursing. Out in public I make sure my shirt is as low as it will go to cover my breast and I always wear loose shirts so my side and back is covered as well.
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        07/26/14
        My son used to sweat like that too when he ate. Even when he wasn't covered he would just pour sweat down his face.
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          07/26/14
          I know that feeling. I was very frustrated in the beginning and afraid to breastfeed in public. But my husband is so supportive and assured me that it would be fine, my baby was more important than spectators. So one day my daughter was hungry and I didn't pump a bottle and I took her into the back of the car and feed her and didn't worry if I was being looked at. I breastfeed her in a restaurant with no problems. At home, I feel more comfortable of course, and I do take her up stairs to feed her when we have company, but that is because I can. Don't give up, they have cover ups that snap. Remember your baby is more important than anyone in the world right now. Hugs.
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            07/26/14
            I think you should tell him how you feel, breastfeeding is natural and I understand that he wants you to keep your breast covered but in summer its hot tell him to put a blanket over his head while he eats and you nurse lol. Seriously though just show him how nothing is exposed while your feeding your child.
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              07/26/14
              Susan Joslin
              I have showed him. In his eyes he can still see everything. What made me the most upset is that he said, "I want a girl but..." He gave me an ultimatum and I didn't like that. Also he said that by me not caring about who I, as he puts it... pop that thing out anywhere, that I have no self respect. If I don't care who I breastfeed in front of I don't respect myself. That was just crazy.
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                my husband was little uncomfortable with me nursing my son in the public. I pointed out to my husband that I use something to cover when I nursed my son. When my husband saw what I did and he felt much better. I had to show him and he will accept the fact that I am nursing our son. However, my son started to bite my nipple and it was painful. I stopped breastfeeding him, but I had to pump before I can give him the bottle.

                For your situation, your husband should be more understandable toward you when you are nursing your baby. I have an idea, but I don't know if your husband is up for it. It would give him a better idea of nursing in public during the summer time. Have him feed baby with the blanket cover like he's breastfeeding her/him. He will see how much hard and too hot for you to use the blanket to cover up when you're feeding him/her. He may gain a new respect for you. Good luck!!!!
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                07/27/14
                Susan Joslin
                That is a good idea! Lol but lo won't take a bottle sigh.
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