Hello i just joined because i had a question

Hello since you all are a bunch of mothers I have a question.Today my 4 month old was sleeping and my 4 year old was laying down with me and then the baby needed her pamper changed so I took off her pamper and went to the closet to refill the wipes I turned around around and saw my 4 year old touching my babys private area I said what are you doing she said that's what uncle did to me and I started asking her questions about what he did she said when you went to the store uncle pulled down my pants and tickled my private....its hard to believe her because now she is going through this lieing phase what do I do now??

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    07/28/14
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      07/28/14
      I agree with Debi, get her checked to be on the safe side and don't leave her alone with him.
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        07/28/14
        Always keep in mind that kids are curious. She is at that difficult stage where she knows that she shouldn't do it but is still curious. BUT...the allegations are something that you never want to ignore. Try if you can not to give her a response from it, just in case it's not true. I like Debi's suggestion about a visit to the pediatrician. They are legally bound to report anything if they see evidence of abuse and they are trained on what to do.

        Or you can call adult and family services and ask them what you should do. It is not something you want to handle on your own.

        If it is true then they can walk you through what to do and if it is not true then they can help you figure out how to teach her that it is wrong to lie about that. And also if she is not being honest and you have a record of it then it protects others in the future just in case she does it again.

        I'm sorry you are going through this. We are all here if you need support or just need to talk.
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          07/28/14
          Well not now, the mother just said it was him, and the authorities are taking care of it. And yes I think that the uncle should have been confronted, not in a hostile way, a concerned way, because children do go through lying phases, and nobody wants to be accused of anything especially child abuse from a family member. I think the mother did the right thing and had the child taken to the doctor to be check out. The mother obviously had her gut feelings due to her history.
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            07/28/14
            That's terrifying. Know that we are all here to support you. Please let us know how it goes. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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