My 9 month old daughter is going on vacation

My 9 month old baby is going on vacation with her father and I am not invited, as we are not together, with his family who has only made one effort since she's been born to meet her. And they did not even acknowledge me when we were in the same room. These people are her family, but are complete strangers to her and she will be spending a week away from me and my family, who she sees on a daily basis. I am not sure how I feel about this. Any advice?

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    08/02/14
    You must be a really strong woman to be able to do that. Has she spent the night with just him before and not you? I could see major trouble coming their way if not.
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    08/02/14
    She has stayed with him just not his family. And she is at the phase where she always wants to be with mommy unless she is at day care with a group of babies and teachers she has now grown up with for the past 7 months. He's a great father to her but I am not so confident about his family. It's complicated.
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    08/02/14
    I understand. It could be very difficult on her or she could be just fine. Personally, I couldn't stand it being gone from her that long with her so young. At the same time, as soon as she gets back dropping her off at daycare could be a horrible time for you
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    08/02/14
    My parents were divorced and my mom said it was never easy getting us back into a routine. It's not going to be easy but I am sure I will make it. I mean I made it through the whole pregnancy without her dad. I can try to make it a week without her....... At least try my best. I see her every day! I can do this. Her dad broke up with me 5 days after I told him I was pregnant.
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    08/02/14
    :( Ugh. My ex kicked me out and wouldn't let me take my daughter-she was 3. I know how you feel. We'll be here for you.
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    08/02/14
    Likewise! I know it's not easy. I was super apprehensive about posting but I'm so glad I did! It's a good feeling to know that other moms understand exactly what you are going through!
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    08/02/14
    Yes, it is. :) Does her dad know she is in the attachment phase of wanting mommy? Are they going to be close just in case?
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      08/02/14
      Latosha Balkman
      Honestly I dealt with this situation, but my children's father and I are together, we have been married almost 10 years. I had a really hard time with my husband's family in the beginning! He mother was awful to me and she turned everyone else against me. I didn't like the disrespect I felt at all! How can you love my son and not respect me? My husband finally put them in their place! If my baby was your age, there is no way she would go on vacation without me! You know her daily routine and I'm pretty sure he knows that!
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      08/03/14
      Latoasha can I give the man's number to call and talk some sense into him!?!? Just kidding. But we did go to a going away party for my BFF who went through all pre-baby stuff with me and Harper was not having these strangers around. The only people who could look at her were the few that knew her. And let's just say her bedtime is normally 7. She fought that until 915. It was a miserable experience for me. She didn't want to sleep in a strange house even though we had everything she needed. Ugh. This is going to be tough.
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