am I bad mom
I am a stay at home mom and wife last weekend me and my husband went out for the first time in almost a year we got into a fight because I was talking to some old friends I was not really paying attention to him. I told him that it was nice just to talk to someone other than him and someone that can actually talk to me back that I feel like I'm going crazy looking at the same four walls all day long. So is it wrong for me to want a little bit of me time. husband thinks now that I'm a wife and a mother that is what my life is now should I be a mother and a wife and then me?
Does he work outside the home? If so, he's probably communicating with other people on a daily basis and doesn't realize the maddening effects of being trapped in a house all day long with no one to talk to that's a friend, or even a coworker.
Do what you need to do for yourself, I think, and maybe explain to him how you feel? You'll be more ready and willing to provide energy in the house and family if you're happy and satisfied, and it's important for your health.
Taking care of yourself by no means makes you a bad mom.
Do you have any friends that you can set up play dates with at a park, or taking turns entertaining at each others house, the mall, etc? How about places you may already take the kids to and meeting new moms to have some play dates with or having breakfast/lunch/dinner on occasion with each other? Some establishments even cater to stay at home moms/dads and have a day of the week there may be a breakfast or event of which you could enjoy together and spend time afterwards walking and talking.
Another idea, possibly reaching out to your friends and chatting etc. during nap times? Do you have anyone you know and trust that could possibly care for the little ones while you meet up with friends for an hour or two? How about friends that also have children and alternating dinner at each others house? Maybe you can alternate times of the month when one of you goes out for Guy Time/Girl Time while the other is at home with little ones? One thing is for sure always set aside some time for you and your honey too,even if the kids are home and asleep. you could have a late night picnic in the living room enjoying dessert and/or dinner and a movie.
Not everything works for everyone., but know you aren't alone and you are NOT a Bad Mom at all just because you want some Adult/Girl time. It's important to be a happy mommy so there can be a happy home and same goes for Daddy too. Stay positive and we are always here to help. :-)