New mom having a hard time adjusting..
I'm a mother of a 16 day old girl. I'm nervous that I'm not cut out for this. I love her dearly but didn't realize how much responsibility it was to care for her. I honestly can't wait to go back to work in November. I've tried for a long time to get pregnant and after three years of trying, I gave up. That's when I got pregnant.. I feel like I don't know what I'm doing and I'm lost. Why do I feel like my life is over? I know this is the wrong way to feel. When she cries, I still don't know what she wants and it is so frustrating. Does it get better in time as she gets older? I'm looking for some helpful advice.
Your life is not over... it's just different now. That took some getting used to for me as well. My friends became non-existent. My husband was still working. So it was only me and this tiny human poop monster. Just take it one day at a time and do not be afraid to ask for help whether it be from parents, friends, or even a doctor if you're feeling depressed. Postpartum depression is very common.
Once you settle in, it will feel like the easiest thing you've ever done. Like riding a bike. I'm here if you need someone to talk to. I feel like we have similar stories.
Your right, it does sound like we have similar stories. It's nice to know that there is someone else out there that felt how I feel. All of my friends have been calling me asking to see the baby and I'm actually blowing them off because I feel like a failure as a mom. I know it's really early as she was just born but this life change has been difficult.
Let your friends come over to see her. I found that just a friendly visit allowed me so much relief even if it was only for a few minutes while they held her. Once when my mom was over I asked if she minded just sitting with her so I could relax in the shower and not have to worry about her. It's amazing how much your family may WANT to help you.
Once your little girl starts giving you more than poopy diapers and blank stares it feels all worth it. All of the sleepless nights, and tears become distant memories. I'll never forget the first REAL smile I got from Ellsie. My heart just melted and I knew she was the only thing that mattered.
Now... when you enter the teething stage, let me know. Sleepless nights may return to haunt you. :)
I had my son in January so I was stuck in the house, minus Dr, appts. My hubby did the shopping because it was snowing. It went on like this for months. I started to get cabin fever. My social life became non-existent...and then I came across Moms.com. This site truly helped me, and I hope you find it helpful as well.
And, if you need to talk, I'll listen.
PS- Welcome to Moms!