HELLO MOMS NEED ADVICE

I have too sit down and talk too my husband about what the cardiology doctor told me but i don't know how too and when because i know our beliefs will be different and are opinions so could use some advice on handling it i was going too tell him i understand that he is concern with my overall health and the possibility of something terrible happening when i give birth but i feel like all these doctors are looking after me and the baby very carefully so if something is out of whack they will know right away and then we can make a decision but for now everything if fine and i dont want too abort a baby when i am perfectly fine and the baby is i think we should just wait and see what happens cause i feel fine and my heart is fine i know he said after the loss of our daughter mariah that he would never want anything like this too happen too me again and at the beginning of this pregnancy he said as long as everything is going too be fine he was ok too but now letting him know what the doctor said will put him back in the spot of thinking he will lose me in the end i just don't know every time i think about it tears come too my eyes because i start thinking about mariah and have flash back memories of me and her in the hospital

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kandiUtica, New York
    08/08/14
    Things like this can be really hard.Be open and honest with your husband just because he has the right to know.I don't believe in aborting baby's either but you can always try a gain for a baby.I don't put a lot of trust in doctors but if you do that's OK.I just lost my baby and I was only 7 weeks pregnant.No matter what you believe praying can always help. Because God loves you more then anyone else can.And talking to God about things before you talk to your husband is a good idea.That is what I did because you need to know what your feeling to get over it. And its not good to go through things alone. If you pray and talk to God about it first you will have less of a chance of freaking out when talking to your husband.
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      08/08/14
      Melissa Middleton
      I believe in giving this child a chance as well, for every life is beautiful and worth living. God is greater than what the doctors say, and is far greater than any diagnosis.
      Sit down and gently talk with your hubby in how you feel about this.
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        08/08/14
        That must be so hard! I would just approach him as honestly yet as positive as possible. Always remember that the choice is ultimately yours. I know coming to a decision together is always best but you also have to weigh the outcomes. If you feel pressured into getting an abortion, will you resent him for the rest of your life? And yet you have to take your own physical health into consideration as well. Remember too that men love their kids and would give their lives for them, but in most marriages the husband is going to do whatever he has to do to protect his wife first and foremost and make sure that she is ok. I am so sorry you have to face this. I will be keeping you and your husband and baby in my prayers!
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        08/09/14
        kandi
        thank you
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          08/08/14
          hI sorry for asking I know its personal but what did ur doctor find?? And im sorry for ur daughter loss....I know ur in a tough situation but can u get a second opinion from another doctor to rule out any doubts u have.....I hope things work out for u ....lots of prayers going ur way ...hugz and I hope u feel better after talking to ur husband he has the right to know I understand this must be hard for the both of u...you will feel relieved once u have told him...
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          08/09/14
          kandi
          the thing is they didn't find anything my heart is fine and recovered 100 percent right now and i have never had any problems with my heart before its only when the infection around mariah in the fluid got too me after i had her and it got into my blood so i ended up having sepsis what its called a really bad blood infection and i think if i wasn't young i probably would not have been able too fight it off but my obgyn told me and i have looked into it that the possibility of it happening again is like 1 in 100 so i feel confident and another thing is as soon as they found something wrong which at that time was me having a short in my cervix instead of us just letting it do whatever it was going too do we opted for the cerclage too keep the baby in but i think that short was trying too tell us something was wrong so i feel like i am in tune with my body this time too know if anything goes wrong and if it does we wont do the cerclage this time it will be in god's hand cause they said if i didn't get the cerclage i would have just miscarried but i would not have had the infection
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            08/09/14
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            08/09/14
            kandi
            thank you
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              08/09/14
              Melissa Middleton
              You'll be in my prayers as well (you, your baby, kids, and hubby).
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              i am a sub teacher going for my teacher license and then finishing up my nursing license LOVE all my kids and my wonderful husband :)