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Ok, I have posted about my ex before, about how little he has had to do with our son, and my frustrations. Well Two weeks ago I received a message via facebook telling me that he was not bringing my son home from a summer visit, and now he is claiming that mikey has Autism which I know without any doubt is absolutely false. Mikey has never had any signs. he claims mikey retreats into a fantasy world, and from my experience with abuse, that is a sure sign something wrong is going on. it has come to my attention that Kenny, my ex may have been using me on his VA benefits as a dependent to gain more money, and that it is possible that he is now trying to gain custody of mikey to keep that dependent pay once I divorce him, he knew before the visit that I was filing for divorce. and if he can get a dr to sign off on something saying that mikey needs special medical needs, then he gets even more money. I am doing everything I can to find proof of this, but not sure where to look, as I have never had to go through any of this before. I know when he first got on benefits he lied to me claiming they would not allow him to put me as a dependent and that mikey and I could not receive benefits through him. So if it is true he has been falsely using me to gain money from the government , he has not supported me in over 4 years. and has never supported our son. does anyone know where I can call to find out if I am being used on his benefits. and what I need to do to stop this and get my son back home to us
I hope you get it figured out. I know this sort of thing happens all too often in the military. :( It'll cause problems, but you might be able to call his command for answers? If you're willing to deal with them. I know wives and military command doesn't mix, from personal experience.
No matter what's going on, I hope you get it figured out and get your son back.
Playing the system for BAH is just messed up.... Has he told you why he thinks he has autism?
I am pretty sure the Autism is just a ploy to get more money. You get more if your child has special needs, and autism is the one of the more common of special needs children
I strongly suggest speaking to a lawyer. Do you have any type of separation or custody agreement in place?