Super stressed out..

Today is my first day of being in short term disability. Of course I got a phone call from work around 10am asking if I know where the paperwork for this invoice might be. I didn't want to call back because I'm supposed to be resting and not have any stress at all. Then around 3:25pm.. my boss emailed me and said my coworker who supposedly called several times and left several messages and she needed to know where things are. First of all, my coworker called once and left only one message and not several like what my boss said. I emailed my boss back and answered her questions. Then I noticed I got a voicemail from HR saying it's very very important that I call her. Well I called and talked to her for 20 mins. The conversation didn't go well in fact it made me super stressed. She started being caring and concern on how I feel then turned into me feeling super pressure on making a decision about whether or not I should continue to work. She said I am heading towards termination because my boss is not happy that I'm missing work. I have doctors notes and I'm on short term disability. How on earth are they going to fired me? Then HR stated if they terminated me then I won't get unemployment. Why does she care if I do or not? It's between me and my hubby. We already have plans if they decided to let me go. This is just too much for me to handle and she had the nerves to say I should try to help out when I'm supposed to be resting at home? I told her that she's stressing me out a lot and she finally ended the conversation but said think about what we talked about and if you could help your boss out too. I don't mind helping but they haven't been treating me well and I don't help people who are like that. So after the call.. I talked to my mom about it and she couldn't believe HR is trying to change my mind about working and all. I'm still pretty stressed out but then got another missed call from my HR saying how she wanted to apologize for making me feel pressure and wanted to work with me and find the best solutions for me and the company. I didn't call back. I don't need to feel anymore stress.. Sorry for all this.. Thanks for listening!!

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    08/11/14
    Thanks Laura! I'm trying to stay calm right now :(
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      08/11/14
      That doesn't sound like a good situation... I don't blame you for not calling back, I wouldn't either. There are definitely more important things right now and they have no business trying to push it off on you. If their company doesn't have measures in place for such a situation and a high enough degree of organization to handle stuff without you... Well,that's their problem.

      I don't think they can fire you, and it's ridiculous in my opinion that they are putting that stress on you. An employee who is treated well is loyal and productive. They are going about this all wrong.
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        08/11/14
        8Theresa Gould
        I just cannot believe the lot of them at your work, seriously. I'm sorry you have to deal with it. :(
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          08/11/14
          You should look up the laws in your state about FMLA and Short Term Disability as it relates to Pregnancy. In these situations, knowledge is power, sometimes if you can direct them to the law, if you state has one other than FMLA, and you can show them you won't be bullied about it, they will ease off. If they continue, I wouldn't hesitate to contact an employment rights attorney or legal aide group specializing in women's work rights. You are technically a protected class while pregnant and when returning to work, they shouldn't be threatening you, they should be working with you. Bosses need to know you know the law and how it affects you and your situation. Don't be shy about throwing facts out to them, some bosses have no idea what the laws are and HR departments are supposed to be there to help you, but I have never had them be very helpful. If it's your local HR person and they continue to pressure you, etc, try contacting the TOP HR person, I have found they are more paranoid than the local contacts regarding these issues. They have seen how badly employment suits affect the company, etc... they will usually make sure you are taken care of properly. Here's a good place to start before looking at your local state laws: http://www.womenshealth.gov/pregnancy/you-are-pre…

          *I am NOT an attorney, all of the above is merely suggestion from my first experience with maternity leave/short term disability, etc.
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            08/11/14
            Thanks everyone for your insights and support! I'm feeling a little better and will do what's best for me and my baby. You guys are the best!!
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