Would you have your mother inlaw present for birth?

When Bentley was being born I asked my husbands mom to please stay out until everything was settled and then she could come see him. I just felt uncomfortable with her there, she didn't listen as soon as he was born while I was still half naked being stitched she snuck in for a picture. I felt sort of like she violated my personal space. I didn't even know she did it until two weeks ago (he's 18 months old now) when I found the pic on her computer. So here's the question how would you feel about your m.i.l being in the room for the birth or while your still exposed? Is there a line you draw with who's allowed in there?

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5sarah New Bern, North Carolina
08/21/14
Melissa Middleton
Hmm, I take it she is a pleasant person to have in there with you?

I wouldn't let mine, either, but I would my mother...maybe.

But, it's a personal and intimate moment for me and my hubby.
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    08/20/14
    4Rina
    I didn't want anybody in the room with me except my husband. And nobody waiting outside either; the thought of that stressed me out. So that was my way of avoiding the issue in the first place! But, I'd have been pretty angry if my MIL came in after I expressly asked her to stay outside. At this point, it's a year and a half ago, so I would let it go, though. Just be sure not to let her know until after you've already given birth to the next one :-)
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      08/21/14
      Melissa Middleton
      No. The only one in the room with me was my hubby. Now, she was in the room with me while I was dilating, which I regret because she was taking PICTURES! I told her not to. She means well, but she will be in the waiting room next time for everything.
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        08/21/14
        Melissa Middleton
        Oh, they even posted the pics online of me after I gave birth to my son and was snapping pictures while I was dilating. I asked her not to and she did it anyway. And then his sister did the same. She cursed me out for asking her to remove it from FB. When she didn't, I removed the pic myself, which made her even more angry. In-laws can be an utter nightmare sometimes. I felt violated as well. That's not a pic for the entire world to see. I understand how you felt. Some people just don't have respect for others.
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          08/22/14
          My mother in law was welcome in my room for as long as she wanted. I would not tell her no, out of respect for all she has done for me. Both sides of our family were in our room most of the time. My mother in law also at the time was an OR nurse at the hospital so if I told her she couldn't be in there, I would have to tell all the rest of the nurses we know at the hospital the same answer. Since I was in labor for 37 hours before my doctor rushed me in for a c-section, it didn't really bother me while she was in there. In fact she was the one who sat with me when I got my epidural thinking I would be pushing in a few hours. My own mother was keeping my aunt company on the other side of the curtain.
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