Baby to solve things, or fix it then baby

A lot of people seem to think that having a baby will fix a relationship or marriage. While in some cases I think that's true, more often it backfires, from what I've seen.

I'm just curious where you ladies fall... Do you think you can have a baby to solve things or do you think you have to solve your relationship problems pre-baby? Why?

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08/24/14
Melissa Middleton
I absolutely agree with you.
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    08/24/14
    Melissa Middleton
    If a couple believes a baby will solve all of their problems, they are wrong. Children cannot fix adult relationships. I've seen it one too many times. My hubby will even confirm this. They had a daughter and then tried to stay together for her, but the ex-wife still cheated and their marriage suffered. He stayed miserable in the relationship for his daughter's sake, which also hurt the daughter because the child was in a home with an unhealthy marriage and household. Kids cannot fix marriages. If one has a child to satisfy the other, than the one who didn't want the child is still miserable and that can lead to an unhappy marriage and, sometimes, divorce.
    A baby can cause a lot of stress, both emotional and financial. A marriage needs to be repaired before adding children are considered.
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