Caring for your Parents
I read a letter on Dear Abby that got my wheels turning.. A lady didn't want to take care of her MIL because she has alzheimer's.
I can completely understand not wanting to/being able to shoulder that responsibility-it is a lot to take on. But in my mind, that's family. That's what we're supposed to do. They took care of us when we were sick, we should do the same for them as long as we're able. Yes, there may come a point where they might need more medical care than you can provide in which case a home would be easier with 24/7 nurses.
I am adamant that if any of our parents need someone to take care of them as they age and can't be alone anymore, we will make a way they can move in with us. All the parents flat out say 'don't do it' (but I'm not going to listen if I'm able, and my husband agrees).
What about you? Will you take care of your parents/in laws when the time comes or do you think they are better being taken care of in a retirement community?
I don't want to see her be placed in a nursing home, but I also see the toll it has taken on m SILs. It's a tough decision. My hubby doesn't want her in a nursing home, either. They believe she can be better taken care of there and watched because they struggle and she does get violent sometimes. It is not her fault but they are having a very difficult time. She also has other health concerns. She doesn't know who anyone is anymore, sadly. And she now believes she lives somewhere else, a place she has lived since she was a little girl. Her minded reverted back to that time and has stayed there. She believes she lives in Kentucky, not Virginia. She keeps saying she wants to go home.
The house she lives in, she has lived in it for over 50 years.
I can understand both sides on this. But, could I stick my mother in a nursing home. No, I could not if I were able to provide what she needed.
I hope to take care of my mother when she is elderly and she knows this. But I would not put her in danger or myself in danger if it wasn't safe for either of us.