Would you ever?

If you had trouble conceiving, would you consider adoption? If so, how long would you try to conceive before you adopted?

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09/30/14
I think that I would have the same cut off limit, maybe closer to a year if I am going off of my current age. We are thinking of adopting when our kids are older because I would like to adopt an older kid.
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09/30/14
Ours would have to change as well. That is another reason why we want to wait. We want to make sure we are not struggling if we ever do it.
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    09/30/14
    Thought about adopting, there's so many children that need a good home.
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    09/30/14
    There really are so many. It is sad.
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    09/30/14
    Some people are against it. That is why I thought I would ask. It is so interesting to me to know why people are against it. But I understand a lot of it because so often you hear the horror stories of adoption and not the good stories.
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    09/30/14
    I think that IS why he's so against it now. At one point, maybe almost five years ago now we were planning on adopting a little girl that was in the care of my friend's mom. The little girl was her great niece, and my friend was the mother's cousin. We were actually starting the process of becoming a foster home solely so we could foster and then adopt this little girl (her mother has had 11 children and has had every single one of them put into foster care as she's unfit). She got wind of what we were doing somehow and took Layla (her name) to Indiana and left her with her dad. Needless to say, she then got put into the foster system and we never saw her again.

    My husband didn't do too well with that. We got really attached to her. So now he's anti adoption.
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    09/30/14
    Wow! That explains it. That would be so hard to get over.
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    09/30/14
    It was awful. I remember when my friend told me what happened. We would go over to her house to visit see her all of the time (she was only one) and her mom would be there. When I would get there she would leave the house for HOURS and no one ever knew where she went or that she even left half the time.

    @Meliss, not a single one. We don't even know where Layla is now. Just that she's six now and her mom is in jail... figures right? I'm sure a good family has adopted her by now, she was the sweetest little girl.
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      09/30/14
      5sarah
      I would consider it. Actually I plan on adopting breanika if her mother doesn't step up soon.
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      09/30/14
      I bet Breanika would love that! Do you think the Mom would go for that?
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      09/30/14
      5sarah
      It's gonna take The judge agreeing that there's abandonment for it to happen but he's already not liking her sice she won't come to court ever
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      09/30/14
      Well that is a good look for you guys though. Hopefully the judge will step in and let it happen.
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        09/30/14
        We have thought about it... but my parents kind of killed it for us kids.
        They were foster parents for awhile, one of their foster kids (12 or 13 years old) had never learned to use eating utensils. As a last effort, my mom took clean cloth diapers and loosely (but tight enough to stay) tied the fork in one hand and spoon in the other. DCF found out about it and we are all black listed unless it' a blood relative.
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        09/30/14
        Oh goodness! That is terrible!
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