A different kind of guilt.

As someone who has never struggled with fertility issues, I often find myself feeling a little guilty talking about my pregnancies when I see others and have friends that seem to struggle with it. My sister was never able to have children and sometimes I find myself not talking about something or changing the conversation when she is around just because I don't want her to feel bad. I know that she is happy for me but I can also see the sadness on her face when I talk about it.
It can be so hard to find that balance of how much to share and how much to keep my mouth shut. Does anyone else face this?

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    10/02/14
    YES, it's very difficult! You want to be sensitive to another persons situation, on the other hand you are excited about your own too.

    One thing that breaks my heart, especially on here, is ladies who have been trying for awhile and want to know how long it took everyone to get pregnant. I tend to not say much because both of mine were unplanned and it would feel so awful to say that to someone who wants to have a baby more than anything and can't, ya know?
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      10/02/14
      4Rina
      I sometimes feel this way too...However, as a friend once said to me: It's not like there is only 1 baby to go around. The fact that you had babies isn't the reason that she didn't (or had a lot more trouble). And I think that's true. So I try to be very empathetic and sensitive but don't feel that much guilt about it anymore.
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        10/02/14
        I have struggled with this feeling, too, since both my pregnancies it was like my husband and I talked about starting to try in a few months and BAM we were already pregnant. Then this time, I had a friend get pregnant a few months behind me and she miscarried. She came up to visit from out of state and I ended up feeling so guilty about being pregnant and showing after she just lost her baby, I bailed on meeting up with her and some other friends because I didn't want to make her feel sad.
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        Birth: September 14
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        Stay at home wife and Mom. I have an older step son that is an amazing young man. My husband and myself have a little boy and newborn girl. Balancing life isn't always easy but it's always worth it :-)