After 5 days I caved in

So today marked 5 days with NO pacifier and lets just say it took a major toll on Carter:( none of us got sleep all week, he cant sleep ad wont sleep and when he does its for a few minutes and he wakes up screamig and tossing turning, it became to where his tantrums were 10x worse and he would throw himself on the floor and throw his head into the ground, he would punch and kick you if you tried calming him down, and then he started to suck on his fingers really bad and was just really emotional. Today We came home, he found his paci, within two minutes he was passed out. I'm not taking it either until he wakes up. The boy needs sleep! And so do we! Its been a rough past few days and I just couldnt take seeing him like that. And now people want to call me names and say I'm not strong enough and what not! But my boy needed sleep miserably! I feel like I failed but I didnt know what else to do, nothing else ever worked to calm him down and to go to sleep.

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    10/08/14
    Everything else was an easy transition but taking the paci just wasnt going so well. Its like his comfort thing, his security blanket. When we took it, I still stuck with the same exact nighttime routine, he just would stay in his room ad play and fall asleep somewhere and then wake up really early. He has snuck into our bed couple nights, its just been crazy, and in my eyes to see him like this was not healthy for him, he was becoming sleep deprived and angry. I tried givin him suckers, tried telling him to cuddle up with his puppy dog, I made sure he had dinner, bath, lotion, change of diaper (bedtime routine) but nothing was working. He went and stayed at my mother in laws and she said last night was horrible! So he found his paci and fell right to sleep. I'm bout to say screw takin it away full time and continue to give it to him at bedtime until he decides to not want it anymore. He will eventually outgrow it right? I just couldn't handle seeing him act like that and be that way.
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      10/08/14
      Aw honey, you need sleep! Give it another six months or so and try again. Some moms have success telling them a fairy is going to take it to another baby who needs it.
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        10/08/14
        He may just not have been ready. You totally did not fail. It is his routine to have it and some kids just do not do well if their routine is broken. Tristen refuses to sleep unless anyone but me lays him down...or without his frog. They all have their things. :-) hopefully you get a good nights sleep tonight!!
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          10/09/14
          Maybe you should transition him away from the pacifier. Going cold-turkey isn't for everyone. My daughter seems to respond to gradual change. That's how we crib trained her and that's how we're potty training her. We introduce a new idea to her and then make gradual changes. She recently turned two and we decided it was time to ditch the pacifier. She only uses it now to sleep and on long car rides. Although she was getting shifty about it. If I tossed the pacifier in her crib, she'd go in her room and get it out of there through the bars. If you try to just take the pacifier away, she gets PISSED, but not if I give her something else. If I catch her with the pacifier, I usually go get a little packet of gummy snacks, a few goldfish crackers, or a sippy cup with something fresh to drink. If she sees those, she takes the pacifier out and forgets about it. I think it really diverts her attention away from the pacifier.
          In the mornings, she'll have it in her mouth when she wakes up. As soon as I sit her down for breakfast, she takes it out to eat and I take it away. She forgets about it. I think we're getting to the point where we can probably eliminate it completely.
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            10/09/14
            We have een doing that. We took it away months ago during te day and he would only get it at night. We transitioned him from our bed to a playpen (get him gojng to bed on his own) and then transfered him to his own room and it went very well, i was really surprised, but when we tried to take away his paci at night he just fell apart and everything went out of control and he went sleep deprived almost. He doesn't get except for at night for bedtime or once during the day for nap time.
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            I got pregnant at 18, had him month after I turned 19. Currently 21. I work full time, full time student and full time momma to Mr. Carter Layne Kennedy. He was born august 23rd,2012. Was born 2w3d early. 6lbs 7oz 21in. I had a VERY hard pregnancy.