What do you think of babysitters?

What do you think of babysitters? My children are 9, 7, and 5 and I STILL cannot bring my self to get a babysitter. I am so afraid of the what if's that I just DO NOT do it... what are your thoughts?

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    11/29/13
    Tessa
    My girls are 3 and 4 and have never spent the night anywhere and the only person that ever babysits them is my aunt(usually) or my mom( not so much she works a lot. I'm also the "what if " kind of person and I just cant handle it.
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      You need a break every now and again. Also my girls are 7 mo and 4 yrs old. They go to a babysitter while I am at work. The babysitter is a mother also. Her children are just a bit younger than me. She is ready for grandchildren so she treats my children like they are her children/grandchildren. She is better at the mom thing than I am. She loves my children like they are her own. They love her. Their dog has taken ownership of my youngest. Ali is her baby. Nicole's hubby is great with Sami. He fuels her love of adventures and love of learning. They both love to tinker with stuff. Nicole calls her hubby "Mc Guiver".

      A babysitter doesn't have to be a teenager in High school trying to make a bit of money. It can be a mother older than you. It can be a grandmother that cares for her young grandchildren that would love to have your children hang out with her grandchildren. It can be a stay at home mom with children the same ages as yours that would like to have your children hang out with hers for a "play date" or whatever. You could get together with a group of mothers and trade babysitting each others children.

      There are so many different options for types of babysitters. It just depends on your needs as to what would be the most appropriate and work the best for you and your family. Whatever you decide don't let anybody tell you that you are wrong. Do what you feel in your heart and stomach is right for your children. I am also one to not want to trust anybody with the care of my children but like I said... "you need a break every once in a while". Family makes great babysitters. If you don't have family you trust than hopefully you are able to find another mother or two in the area you live in that you can be friends with and trust to care for your children. Trust is a really big thing when choosing childcare. It is incredibly helpful if you can be friends with the person/people who is/are watching your children.
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      Teresa ~ I know... I actually quit my job when I had kids because I was not comfortable with daycare. I did watch other children when my children were young but that got really old too... with parents being really late etc...

      i guess I have a trust issue when it comes to people... I am just not willing to jepoardize my children's saftey for my pleasure. I know sometimes we need a break... but I just cannot do it!
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      Yeah. I hear ya. I don't like to use babysitters either. I will ask a relative to watch the girls or the babysitter that they go to while I am at work if the hubby and I go on date night which really only happens once or twice a year. My time away from children is work. Otherwise I have both girls.

      I learned a long time ago that I am not in control of my life and what happens. I have to just have faith that the lord will keep them safe when they are in my care or someone else's care. The what if's don't do you a whole lot of good other than to help you be over prepared for catastrophe when it doesn't happen. Looking around every corner and over your shoulder constantly for catastrophe is no way to live. Live life and let life happen.

      I know with my oldest I checked in with whatever relative was watching her every couple of hours when the hubby and I were out but I eventually got over that when she was in day care. I didn't like the daycare she was in so I opted for a babysitter when I went back to work after my second. I still didn't go back to work after my second was born until she was 6 months old. When I am at work I don't check in with the babysitter because I know she will call the hubby or she will call the work number if she needs anything. Also I will sit on her kitchen floor and visit for a while in the morning and in the afternoon when I am dropping off and picking up the girls. We also visit via facebook through out the night a lot of the time. There is a lot of communication between me and our babysitter. She is a mother and has been through just about everything with her three children.
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        11/29/13
        I think everyone needs a break, but I simultaneously feel like I'm going to sort of be in your boat one day. I've thought about just writing down everything I want them to do, things that are unacceptable... But there are still other concerns, I know. Maybe you will find someone who you can truly trust who will stick around. Best of luck!
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          11/29/13
          8Theresa Gould
          I'm like you, Magen. Our children haven't had babysitters either. I'm grateful now to have teen daughters to babysit, but we limit even using them.
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            11/30/13
            Kim... I must say we have had grandparents babysit... but really that was only twice in our kids lives... I know we NEVER go anywhere! Also Theresa ... I would limit my children too , if they were old enough... right now I can only forsee disaster looming if I were to leave them alone together if the oldest was old enough! LOL!
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