I have a four and six year old daughter whose attitudes and discipline are completely out of control. My boyfriend moved into our home about a year ago and my children refuse to listen to him and think its funny to talk back which in turn upset him a lot. My boyfriend constantly tells my four year old daughter it is her fault that we fight all the time. I have tried everything from talking to them, yelling when they dont listen, timeouts, and even taking toys away and they just don't care. It is very frustrating to have them not listen. I have them in play therapy hoping it will help but it only seems to be making their attitudes worse than ever.
My guess is they are rebelling. They want attention and they are getting it this way. They want to make sure he doesn't have time to get your attention so they keep him busy by getting in trouble constantly. My oldest does this after 5 years when she is at my house to my husband and sometimes to the younger kids. I finally (after realizing what was actually going on) sat down and told her I wouldn't love her any less no matter what happened. That calmed it down a lot. She just wanted reassurance and my attention. I do try and give her attention one on one, but she does understand now that it's hard for me to do that.