Play time!

We went to the mall yesterday to play at the play area. The kids had a blast, Grace was even playing with a few babies. After we went and got a snack and came back to play, there was a bully. She was just plain mean. Mostly picked on Andrew and Eva and another little boy. Kept telling Eva she was a boy, and if she was a girl then she was ugly. Andrew and the other boy kept sticking up for her and telling the other girl to just leave her alone-Eva started playing by herself near me. Then bully kept telling Andrew he was mean and a monster and leave her alone. It took everything I had not to yell at the girl, or the mom who was ignoring or laughing at her antics. After awhile the three kids who were getting picked on started playing together near his grandparents and I. They all three did amazing, didn't get mad at her and didn't try to fight. When she got bored with her game she tried to encroach on theirs and was ignored. We left shortly after.

How do you deal with bullies at playground or do you just let the kids work it out?

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    11/18/14
    5sarah
    We have a three time rule, you tell an adult, if that doesn't work you tell another adult, if that doesn't work then my kids are allowed to take it into their own hands. My kids come from one of the most teased and degraded family's in our area, which is strange because we're also one of the most kind hearted family's. But my kids learn to defend themselves early. Breanika was dealing with some bigger kids on the playground this summer they were like middle schoolers she's four they had no reason to tease her, she told the adults in the area and no one did anything, she punched an 8th grade boy right in the stomach.
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    11/18/14
    5sarah
    They don't pick on her now
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    Melissa Middleton
    Lol...I had to laugh. Go Breanika! At least she can defend herself. As much as I think hitting is a last resort, unless in self-defense, I would have loved to see a middle schooler get beat up by a four year old. Haha!! I applaud her.
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    11/18/14
    5sarah
    We only allow them to get physical if its a last resort, you can only tell on a kid so many times before you have to do what you have to do to get your point across. The boy called his dad, his dad asked what I was gonna do I told him I was taking her for ice cream.
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    11/18/14
    Melissa Middleton
    I agree with you. And I had to laugh what you told his father. I bet he was speechless. Lol!
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    11/18/14
    Melissa Middleton
    I also cannot believe the dad asked you "what you were going to do" being his son was picking on a toddler. If I was his parent, I would have said, "Well you should not have been picking on her." It's pretty sad he called his dad to whine about a four-year-old hitting him. I would be embarrassed.
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    11/18/14
    Go Breanika! Glad she stood up for herself. Sad the adults did nothing.
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    11/18/14
    *other adults
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      Melissa Middleton
      We have run into this problem before. We usually just ignored the children of they were being snobbish. We recently dealt with a bully issue. A few children on the bus were teasing my daughter and making her cry. Three of her cousins ride the bus and were threatening the other children if they continued being cruel to Jaina. We found out about it when her cousins could no longer get the children to stop. I talked to the bus driver and principal. The main child who was doing it was given an assigned seat, and his mother was called into the principal's office. His mother was furious at him. I think she was even more angry being Jaina has Down Syndrome, and the boy was making fun of her for it. I was peeved myself. My little sister and cousin are mentally challenged, and it has always bothered me when others make fun of those who are not like them. I handled it differently when I was a kid. I would slam other kids against the wall and threaten them if they continued hurting my little sister. Emiliee was taller and bigger than me, but no one was going to treat my little sister that way.

      Now, being an adult, if it happens in the school or the bus, we go to the bus driver and the school. I believe approaching the parents of the children and seeing if they could stop their child's behavior. I am disgusted by the mother's demeanor of the little girl at the mall. I would never allow my children to behave that way towards other children. I was bullied and people I love have been bullied. It is not something we tolerate. I hope you do not run into it again.
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      11/18/14
      I hope so to. It didn't seem to phase Eva or Andrew any, thankfully.
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        11/18/14
        Melissa Middleton
        Oh, and by the way, I think Eva is a very beautiful little girl. :)
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        11/18/14
        Thank you. :)
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          11/18/14
          I think the girl was about 8.. maybe 7. She was being bossy to her siblings and the family they came with... The kids got some pretzels and strawberry lemonade for behaving.
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          03/14/15
          I'm not really a confrontational person. There does come a point where we just leave. But there have been a few times where we stay a little longer so th kids do have some experience dealing with people with bad attitudes, because it is a skill they will have to learn.
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            03/14/15
            Wow I would not have the patience to stay at the park. I used to take Jan to the playground every week and stopped going after so many rude kids bothering him and I ended up arguing with a really rude mom because her older son hit my son. She even refer to us like you people this and you people that! I now have a swing set and slide in the backyard. I don't need my kids around rude trashy people like that lol sometimes a fun time turns to a stressful one.
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            03/14/15
            Yeah. We don't go to our park or pool in town much at all. If we do we make sure its a time where most of the other kids won't be there.
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