Baby sister

Ok ladies I need some help here my baby sister has a son, he's 10 months old. She's pregnant with her second son. She keeps having these fits of border line crazy, if the baby cries to much or something she almost loses it. I live 5 hours away so I can't go pick him up. I need to know of something that will help her calm down, also she's in a shelter so she can just walk away from him.

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5sarah New Bern, North Carolina
    11/18/14
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    11/18/14
    5sarah
    She almost always calls me when it starts happening, but the only people there are non-parent women who don't get it, and a very very young teen mom with a newborn. She's also very afraid of him getting taken if she says anything to her doctor, I've tried telling her they won't take the baby for her asking for help but she's only 18 and terrified of everything. Her mom kinda sucks, and our biological fathers a junkie so she doesn't have much family other than me, I think she's having a hard time with me being so far away is the real issue but being without a car I can't just go get her.
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      11/18/14
      Maybe your sister should see if she can move closer to you and stay with you until she has a place of her own. She needs to remember that babies cry, its okay if they do and find out what he needs because that's their way of communicating with you. Just keep reassuring her. I hope things work out.
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        11/18/14
        5sarah
        The new house is only an hour and a half from her so I think I'm gonna send she'll let me take the baby a weekend or two out of the month just to give her a break.
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        11/18/14
        That's a good idea.
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          11/18/14
          4Rina
          Sounds like your sister may be suffering from some postpartum depression. There are types of therapy and even medications that can help. She needs to see a doctor or she could end up harming herself or her child.
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          11/18/14
          5sarah
          She's only 6 months with her 2nd.
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          11/19/14
          4Rina
          Do you mean she's pregnant again with her second child? If so, you should know that there is also perinatal depression in pregnancy that is similar to PPD. It sounds like she needs help. Being so young and having kids so close together is stressful, and it seems like she's got some depression/anxiety going on in addition to that. Also, as her sister, I think you should be blunt and make sure she gets on good birth control as soon as possible after the birth of her child. Something longer term so that she won't be getting pregnant again soon. Just my two cents...
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          11/19/14
          5sarah
          Actually she was on mirena when she got pregnant this time and the depo shot with her first. Birth control is effective but it does have a fail rate. I personally choose not to be on birth control because of the risks you take as far as jeprodizing future fertility when you take birth control.
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          11/19/14
          4Rina
          Condoms have no impact on future fertility! But my main point is that your sister seems to be suffering from perinatal depression/anxiety. It's not a very well-know illness; even more of a taboo that postpartum depression, but a very good friend of mine had it, so I know it exists. She needs help beyond what you can offer over the phone, and there is no shame in that.
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          11/19/14
          5sarah
          I agree she needs further help but when and how often she has a baby isn't up to me so the most I can do is try.
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          Born: Westfield, New York
          Current: New Bern, North Carolina
          Birth: April 30
          On Moms.com since: Oct 30, 2013
          I am 21 and have one child of my own plus my step kids.