I'm gonna lose it

Breanikas mother called tonight, breanika didn't wanna talk she was more interested in 4 year old land. The mother proceeded to try to convince breanika I was there telling her how to act and what to do (Breanikas at her grandmothers right now an hour and a half from my house). The grandmother told The mother I am not there and no one is telling her what to say or how to act. The mother still insisted on trying to pressure information out of breanika until my significantly more mature than her own mother four year old told her mom I'm done talking to you goodbye and hung up. I am shaking mad you just don't do that to an innocent toddler, she was probably drunk too.

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5sarah New Bern, North Carolina
    11/18/14
    Wow, the craziness you gotta deal with, your step daughter handled it well by the sounds.
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    11/18/14
    5sarah
    I was ready to destroy her. If breanika was old enough to understand what wAs going on It wouldn't have bothered me so much but she's 4 she doesn't get it.
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      11/19/14
      :( Breanika probably understood a little more than she's letting on. My daughter won't talk to me if she is mad at me (usually because I haven't seen her for awhile because of the cars or weather), it's like prying information out of a vault that I don't have the combination too.
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      11/19/14
      5sarah
      Breanika is mad at her mom. But Breanikas mad at her mom cuz she's a drunken fool that wants nothing to do with her unless it's convinient for her. If it was because the weather or something it wouldn't bother me but how can you not want to be with your kid.
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      11/19/14
      I don't know.
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      11/19/14
      5sarah
      I understand like your situation cuz if the weathers bad you can't help that. But she'll tell her Shes coming and get drunk and blow it off so that irritates me.
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      11/19/14
      My brother's ex is like that.. All he can do with his kids is tell them how much he loves them and they are important.. They go to see their mom because they have to, but more often than not, they beg not to go (we caught my nephew outside in his underwear so he would be sick and wouldn't have to go one time, he was 6, it was below zero)...or get signed up for sports to make it so their mom has to come to see them and stay in a hotel so they can do the sports they signed up for (13 and 10 now). She'll know and understand eventually and the mother will reap what she is sowing.
      My ex would rather be with his friends than my daughter.. and she knows it. She lives with her grandparents. Last time she was at my parents', she was mad almost all weekend because her dad had promised he would be at her concert and he didn't show. She locked him out of the house, locked him out of the room-apparently locked the chain lock then climbed out the window (when he works, he works nights so they share a room....)
      Just give Breanika extra hugs and love. Hopefully she'll remember that more instead of her bio mom being an idiot.
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        11/19/14
        5sarah
        Yeah its just frustrating and hurts to see her hurting. She stayed up all night one night swearing mommy was going to come and when she didn't shownup breanika peed her pants for three days. We're trying to get her some sort of counseling so at least maybe we can break the pee my pants cuz I'm mad habit.
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        11/19/14
        :( poor thing.
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          11/19/14
          Melissa Middleton
          The poor dear. I've dealt with a few of those issues from family members and non-family members. It breaks my heart when the kids are hurting, and children have trouble processing those emotions, at times.

          My bio father sounds like your daughter's mother.
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          11/19/14
          5sarah
          My dad was like that too sent nr a letter from jail when I was 7 swearing things were gonna change only thing that changed is I haven't heard from him once since
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          11/19/14
          Melissa Middleton
          The last time I saw my dad I was six, around the same age as you. Luckily, you and I never turned out like our father or married men like them. :)
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          11/19/14
          Melissa Middleton
          Oh, and my dad being hauled away in a police car (always in and out of prison).
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          11/19/14
          5sarah
          I'm pretty sure I've blocked all that stuff out of my head. My dads not like a criminal just doesn't pay his child support and goes to jail for it.
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          11/19/14
          Melissa Middleton
          I'm sorry about that. Mine never paid, either, but he was also a criminal. He is not a part of my life, and I am keeping it that way.
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          11/19/14
          5sarah
          Mines not either. I'd be willing to give him a chance
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          About sarah
          Born: Westfield, New York
          Current: New Bern, North Carolina
          Birth: April 30
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          I am 21 and have one child of my own plus my step kids.