You and your husband's mom

I never saw my mother-in-law, because she was living in a different country, and wasn't able to attend our wedding. She died when our son was only 1 months old, so I could't go to her funerals:( ​ It's very sad, because she was a beautiful wise person, and never complained about something.

However, I have heard lot of stories about relationships between a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law, good or bad ones. I understand that some mothers-in-law are not very nice, and think that they know about their grandchildren everything, and you know nothing, so you have to listen to them.

so, how to handle a situation if you have a such "wonderful" mother-in-law. First of all, it's your own child, and you as a mom have instincts, and you feel what your kid is wanted at this moment. It's very nice if you just can call her and ask for an advice because she has more experience raising your husband.

I'm a future mother-in-law, and I'm thinking and praying now for a good wife for my son, and a good mother for their kids. Of course, I will love my grandchildren, and I should love my daughter-in-law. I can't choose a wife for my son, but I believe that God can.

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    12/02/13
    Very nice post, Elena! I have a relationship with my mother-in-law that I won't say is 'bad' but we come from very different lifestyles and world-views. We will see how our relationship grows once hubby and I move back near family!
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      12/02/13
      ..that's a super sweet post and view point you ALREADY have Elena :) Whomever marries your sweet son will be SO lucky to have you as a mother in law!

      My mother in law.. sigh. She isn't awful.. but she is VERY different from me. I look at it that I was blessed with an amazing Mom.. so maybe I don't have the shopping side kick, call whenever, can relate to great mother in law due to this.. I take it all in stride. She also has a ton of issues with herself.. that in turn, turn me away easily. On the flip side, she is there whenever we really need her.. but she is very different.

      I always hate the saying... "you marry the family too" ..I get that you are around your in laws and what not.. but I married my husband for my husband, not his family :)
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      12/03/13
      you're absolutely right, Meg! We're marry to the family too, I like it. I loved my mom-in-law, even though I never saw her in person, but my husband has 4 sisters and a brother and I have to deal with them too, they're completely opposite of their mom. They think they're the most educated and smart people in the world...needless to say, it's hard to communicate when people who are such proud of themself
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        I agree. Gee, my mother-in-law... While I love her, I met her under hard circumstances, as my husband's father passed of cancer after we'd only been dating 1 1/2 months. That's how I met the family actually... I feel like if I'd known her from when she was happier, and took care of herself, that things might be different. She's very old-fashioned, I'm very out-there. She is very... persuasive.... and I'm very laid back. Now that we are starting a family, I actually don't know what our relationship will become, but I'm sure it will change. Perhaps for the worst, which saddens me...

        She is a nice woman who has had a long, hard struggle, especially the past three years that I've known her.

        Also, my husband isn't too fond of my mother, either, lol! And I'm very close to her. Guess, it's just the way things go.
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          12/03/13
          Tessa
          I think I'm rather lucky. My mother in law and I get along pretty good. I've been with my husband since I was 12 so she's always been part of my life. She does some little things that I don't agree with but I love her and she loves me. I'm very close with my mom so she'll never take her spot but its nice to have another mother like figure and friend.
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          12/03/13
          Tessa
          You are a good women and a good mom it wont be hard for you to win over any girls friends or his wife :).
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