You and your husband's mom
I never saw my mother-in-law, because she was living in a different country, and wasn't able to attend our wedding. She died when our son was only 1 months old, so I could't go to her funerals:( It's very sad, because she was a beautiful wise person, and never complained about something.
However, I have heard lot of stories about relationships between a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law, good or bad ones. I understand that some mothers-in-law are not very nice, and think that they know about their grandchildren everything, and you know nothing, so you have to listen to them.
so, how to handle a situation if you have a such "wonderful" mother-in-law. First of all, it's your own child, and you as a mom have instincts, and you feel what your kid is wanted at this moment. It's very nice if you just can call her and ask for an advice because she has more experience raising your husband.
I'm a future mother-in-law, and I'm thinking and praying now for a good wife for my son, and a good mother for their kids. Of course, I will love my grandchildren, and I should love my daughter-in-law. I can't choose a wife for my son, but I believe that God can.
My mother in law.. sigh. She isn't awful.. but she is VERY different from me. I look at it that I was blessed with an amazing Mom.. so maybe I don't have the shopping side kick, call whenever, can relate to great mother in law due to this.. I take it all in stride. She also has a ton of issues with herself.. that in turn, turn me away easily. On the flip side, she is there whenever we really need her.. but she is very different.
I always hate the saying... "you marry the family too" ..I get that you are around your in laws and what not.. but I married my husband for my husband, not his family :)
She is a nice woman who has had a long, hard struggle, especially the past three years that I've known her.
Also, my husband isn't too fond of my mother, either, lol! And I'm very close to her. Guess, it's just the way things go.