MY Parents are Divorcing
I really want to talk and maybe hear stories of adults that have gone through the same thing. And to vent a bit, too, I suppose, lol.
My parents have been married for 26 years. In that time, both parents had affairs, and the past 3 years, I just kept hearing from my dad about how he was going to ask for a divorce. Well, I got a phone call while I was on vacation, from my brother, saying it was finally happening. My mother confirmed it at Thanksgiving. Mum has been looking for rents, they have the paperwork, and its going to be a pretty amicable separation, it seems. My parents have always been together, and so, with the new baby on the way, I have no idea how this will affect our (me and my siblings) lives. How do you adjust to something that big?
My father also has had a girlfriend, but none of us kids have met her yet... I feel like, no matter how far she and my dad go, no matter if I like her and we get along or not, she will never be my son's grandmother. Am I being to harsh? Or judging her too quickly based on the situation?
I'm sorry, the reality of it has just been quite stressful. Even with three years I couldn't prepare myself for it actually happening. It actually made it feel like more of a hoax.
It can be hard
You and your siblings will need to figure out how to share time between the two households, but you'll figure it out. Talk to your parents when you feel sad about it. But understand they only people who will truly understand why their marriage didn't work, and what it was like to be married to the other is them. Once I coped with the fact that I probably won't get all the answers I wanted, or the apologies I felt I deserved and let my anger go it was much easier. Your parents are still your parents, just apart. You still love them and they still love you. Good Luck I hope the adjusting to the new situation goes well.