How To Get Toddler To Brush teeth

1. Make brushing teeth just part of the routine. You may want to try it BEFORE the bath so she is not so tired. Or even during the bath. More awkward for you, but she will be more playful and relaxed. Even right after dinner works.

2. Consider skipping toothpaste. Most dentists say that's fine at this age, and since most kids don't like toothpaste, you might experiment to see if that makes her more open to brushing. The other option is to buy a bunch of kids' toothpaste (Toms of Maine for instance, prides itself on more natural ingredients) one after the other, trying them and giving her choices. Maybe she will love one and that will give her incentive.

3. "Play" toothbrushing all day long to help get her used to the idea and work out her feelings about it. For instance:

Let her brush the stuffed animals' or dolls' "teeth."
Brush all over her body -- her arm, her ear. "Is this where I should brush?"
Let her brush your teeth to reverse the power dynamic and help her work out her feelings about it with a lot of giggling (which releases the same pent-up emotions as crying.)

4. Use sound to start good habits. Encourage her to say "Teeee" (for the front teeth) and "Ahhhh" (for the back teeth) and roar like an animal so her mouth is open wide while brushing. This also makes the whole process more of an exciting game.

5. Sing! "This is the way we brush our teeth, after we eat our dinner" or "The toothbrush in the mouth goes round and round" can be very helpful because singing increases the fun level and reinforces the routine. Maybe most important, it assures the child that the brushing is time limited, because they can count on it ending when the song ends. Which leads us to...

6. Keep it VERY short! Having someone poke around in your mouth can seem interminable even to an adult. The idea now is to get her used to the idea of brushing. You can lengthen the amount of brushing time by using songs and timers as she gets older.

7. Play "copycat". Since most kids this age enjoy learning by copying us but want to "do it themselves," brush together looking into the mirror. Have her copy you in the mirror as you brush. She won't do a thorough job, but it is a good start and teaches her that SHE brushes. That way she doesn't have to rebel totally against brushing teeth even if she goes through periods where she won't let you brush her teeth. Make it a fun game.

8. Help her finish up. Most toddlers aren't able to do a thorough job and most parents want to "help" them a bit at the end. This is the tricky part, because most humans hate having someone else stick things in their mouth. Try to make this part more palatable by limiting the time (using a song, counting, etc), or making it a game. A common game that is often successful is to chase things in her mouth. So you might say you see a giraffe or a tiger in there that you have to catch. Some people talk about sugar bugs (germs). I personally liked the game of "Oooh, you had rice tonight, didn't you? Let's get that rice off your teeth! I see apples!" etc.

9. Offering choices helps kids cooperate. To "finish up" her teeth, does she want her favorite stuffed animal or doll to brush, or a puppet? (Puppets make it easier for you to hold the toothbrush but she may prefer her doll. Of course, you can also offer her a choice between two puppets.) Hold the doll or puppet and let them "finish up" her mouth. Awkward, but it gets the job done.

10. If she resists, take turns. Toddlers are beginning to understand "My turn!" so you can say "Baby's turn to brush Mommy!" and then "Now it's dolly's turn!" and "Now it's Mommy's turn to brush Baby!".

11. Distract and offer control wherever possible. It can be very helpful to let the child hold a different toothbrush (or even one in each of her hands) while you brush her teeth. Let her be in charge of everything you can about brushing -- the toothbrush she chooses, the toothpaste (or not), the song, the position she is in, how many times you have to jump up and down before she's done, etc. Many parents say that simultaneously letting the little one brush their teeth WHILE they brush hers is the best distraction.