as if i did not feel like a failure enough after trying for 20hrs to go the natural route. i bawled when they said we were out of time
Each has its benefits, each has its drawbacks. I don't see any reason to be ashamed of birth regardless of the method.
I frankly think some women that have a c-section are stronger than women who have vaginal births because I am really afraid of surgery haha
i think anyone giving birth is a super hero! the carrying process alone has its ups and downs. and i agree with you wholeheartedly Elena!
I had a c-section with my son and will have one with this one as well. If I had tried to give birth naturally with my son, there is a strong chance that neither of us would have survived. Besides...if that's not really going birth...where did this kid come from? Lol
This is a terrible picture!
I had two c sections. First time my cervix stopped dilating. I labored for twelve hrs. Second time I labored for four days and got to 1& a half cm. and dropped four lbs in four days. My body was exhausted. So I chose another c section.
we tried and tried. i stopped dilating at eight and then she started coming down at a angle and her head was stuck. poor thing was bruised and had to get out. at first i felt like less of a women because i couldn't do it natural and we had to have meds, but then i realized hey we both made it safely and i'm here to take care of her and those complications were minor due to what could be. this one they already told me was going to be a c-section with my history and other health problems they wont risk it. i agree no women should be shamed. we still brought life and are raising and caring for our children.
We need to honor all ways of birth, even the ones that didn't go as we planned. Because it is still the way some children are brought into our lives. This isn't about being pro-cesarean. This is about being pro-mom. You did all you could have. We cannot judge because we don't know her full story, every angle, all the reasons, and I realize that's not really something we could ever completely know. I don't want the women whose births were difficult and resulted in surgery to be made to feel like they did something wrong.
PRO-MOM! i agree/love that 100%
I hated that I had to have another c section. I wanted so badly to have a vaginal birth. To push my baby out And to hold her and nurse her right away. I wanted to experience that special moment. But I couldn't and I hate that.
but your baby is here and healthy Bethany, and that is important :)
Thanks Jen. It means a lot. I have been struggling with the two c sections I had. With my son we had no idea what we were doing. And the second time I wanted to badly to have a vaginal birth. But it didn't happen.
The fact that you grew and carried a human inside you is strength in itself. That picture is ridiculous and you shouldn't feel like any less of a woman. You tried for hours on end and most women dont even have to do that nearly as long. You're a trooper and don't let something like that bring you down.
I wanted to give birth vaginally. Due to a narrow birth canal, I was unable to. The only way for my son to come out was by Cesarean. And to whomever wrote that picture above, if you think a Cesarean is the easy way out, you are wrong. They have to cut through muscle. A lot of my muscle was damaged after, and trying to rebuild it is not an easy road. I gave my son life and gave him a mother to raise him. Am I disappointed that I could not birth vaginally? Yes, but those regrets are far less than the miracle I have playing on the floor. I did not have the choice of a Cesarean and a vaginal birth. The only choice I had was a Cesarean. As I stated before, he may not have been here if I chose to be stubborn.
Oh, and my step-daughter was starving in her mother's womb and it was a forced Cesarean, as with a niece of mine when her mother's water broke and Ems was only 25-26 weeks along. These children would not be here without a Cesarean.
All birth's are equal. None are better or easier. Everyone needs to stop trying to be "better". Some are more painful and some have it a little easier and don't have too much pain. But, every birth is different. You may have it easier for one and extremely painful for the second birth. Being able to have a baby is a beautiful gift from God. All special and wonderful in every way!
Having a c-section was not my first choice, but in the end it gave me my beautiful son. I had gone in to the hospital to get induced a week after my expected due date. When they had checked me at my due date, I wasn't even a half cm dilated. I was in labor for 37 hours just to get dilated to a 4. My doctor was willing to let me go until I reached a 9 or 10, but after checking on James progress, my doctor's nurse had immediately prepped me for a c-section. If I had given birth to James naturally, it would of killed him :( he had the umbilical cord wrapped around his leg once and his neck twice. He was so stressed out that he was having a hard time progressing. Trust me having a c-section was the hardest thing I have ever done. I'm not known for having to slow down, but my doctor forced me to. My then boyfriend (now fiance) was scared for me since it was a huge surgery, but everytime he looks at our son he knows it was the right thing to do in the end.