cruel

as if i did not feel like a failure enough after trying for 20hrs to go the natural route. i bawled when they said we were out of time

cruel
12
    04/10/15
    I had a c-section with my son and will have one with this one as well. If I had tried to give birth naturally with my son, there is a strong chance that neither of us would have survived. Besides...if that's not really going birth...where did this kid come from? Lol
    3
      04/10/15
      Bethany Reilly
      This is a terrible picture!
      2
        04/10/15
        This post and the page it came from is ridiculous!

        While I do think the method does matter (simply because most women i know who have had c sections still hate that fact years later), sometimes they are needed.
        3
          04/10/15
          Bethany Reilly
          I had two c sections. First time my cervix stopped dilating. I labored for twelve hrs. Second time I labored for four days and got to 1& a half cm. and dropped four lbs in four days. My body was exhausted. So I chose another c section.
          2
          04/10/15
          I try not to have too much of an opinion because I have never been there. All mine cane vaginally. For me, it would take extreme circumstances to allow a c section. But this mommy shaming crap is just that-crap.
          2
            04/10/15
            we tried and tried. i stopped dilating at eight and then she started coming down at a angle and her head was stuck. poor thing was bruised and had to get out. at first i felt like less of a women because i couldn't do it natural and we had to have meds, but then i realized hey we both made it safely and i'm here to take care of her and those complications were minor due to what could be. this one they already told me was going to be a c-section with my history and other health problems they wont risk it. i agree no women should be shamed. we still brought life and are raising and caring for our children.
            4
            04/10/15
            We need to honor all ways of birth, even the ones that didn't go as we planned. Because it is still the way some children are brought into our lives. This isn't about being pro-cesarean. This is about being pro-mom. You did all you could have. We cannot judge because we don't know her full story, every angle, all the reasons, and I realize that's not really something we could ever completely know. I don't want the women whose births were difficult and resulted in surgery to be made to feel like they did something wrong.
            4
            04/11/15
            Exactly,! So much more eloquent than I am Elena!
            1
            04/11/15
            My son was my hardest as well. Came down crooked and out bruised. I started rethinking how I birthed because the nurses told me if I didn't have epidural I could have moved around and got him turned right.

            But I digress. Its up to each mom. I do wish they would be more open to telling moms moving is good, but maybe we'll get back to that one day
            1
              04/11/15
              Bethany Reilly
              I hated that I had to have another c section. I wanted so badly to have a vaginal birth. To push my baby out And to hold her and nurse her right away. I wanted to experience that special moment. But I couldn't and I hate that.
              2
              04/12/15
              Bethany Reilly
              Thanks Jen. It means a lot. I have been struggling with the two c sections I had. With my son we had no idea what we were doing. And the second time I wanted to badly to have a vaginal birth. But it didn't happen.
              1
                04/13/15
                Melissa Middleton
                I wanted to give birth vaginally. Due to a narrow birth canal, I was unable to. The only way for my son to come out was by Cesarean. And to whomever wrote that picture above, if you think a Cesarean is the easy way out, you are wrong. They have to cut through muscle. A lot of my muscle was damaged after, and trying to rebuild it is not an easy road. I gave my son life and gave him a mother to raise him. Am I disappointed that I could not birth vaginally? Yes, but those regrets are far less than the miracle I have playing on the floor. I did not have the choice of a Cesarean and a vaginal birth. The only choice I had was a Cesarean. As I stated before, he may not have been here if I chose to be stubborn.
                2
                  04/13/15
                  Melissa Middleton
                  Oh, and my step-daughter was starving in her mother's womb and it was a forced Cesarean, as with a niece of mine when her mother's water broke and Ems was only 25-26 weeks along. These children would not be here without a Cesarean.
                  2
                    06/22/15
                    All birth's are equal. None are better or easier. Everyone needs to stop trying to be "better". Some are more painful and some have it a little easier and don't have too much pain. But, every birth is different. You may have it easier for one and extremely painful for the second birth. Being able to have a baby is a beautiful gift from God. All special and wonderful in every way!
                    3
                      06/23/15
                      Having a c-section was not my first choice, but in the end it gave me my beautiful son. I had gone in to the hospital to get induced a week after my expected due date. When they had checked me at my due date, I wasn't even a half cm dilated. I was in labor for 37 hours just to get dilated to a 4. My doctor was willing to let me go until I reached a 9 or 10, but after checking on James progress, my doctor's nurse had immediately prepped me for a c-section. If I had given birth to James naturally, it would of killed him :( he had the umbilical cord wrapped around his leg once and his neck twice. He was so stressed out that he was having a hard time progressing. Trust me having a c-section was the hardest thing I have ever done. I'm not known for having to slow down, but my doctor forced me to. My then boyfriend (now fiance) was scared for me since it was a huge surgery, but everytime he looks at our son he knows it was the right thing to do in the end.
                      3
                      About Jen Henderson
                      Current: Fostoria, Ohio
                      Birth: May 09
                      On Moms.com since: Jan 18, 2014
                      Stay at home mom