I have a four year old and he recently got kicked out of preschool/ daycare. I have found another shool for him to go to but am worried he will do that same things. Such as, spit at people, kick people, tell him teachers he is going to shoot them, punch people, and so on. He is so angry and frustrated inside I don't know how to help him. We have tried everything from spanking, to calmly talking. Nothing works. I recently got him set up for counseling but in the mean time does anyone have suggestions?
Some tips to try:
Ignore aggressive behaviours that can be tolerated. Denying a child the attention that he craves often helps defuse aggression.
Channel the child’s energy. A child with the energy to kick at others has the energy to kick a football instead.
Show affection. Many times a child acts aggressively if he is feeling hurt and a hug can be very soothing.
Talk with the child. Often if a child understands a whole situation they are less likely to become frustrated and act aggressively.
Removing a child from the trigger. Particularly if a child is becoming a danger to him/herself or others, picking them up and taking them to another location may be best.
When he is at school, I'm looking into switching school but I can't keep taking off work to go and soothe him, I will loose my job.