step parent woes
my step son has decided that he does not like me. he told me and then he took it out on his one year old sister.... i'm not even upset about how he feels about me but to be mean to a baby just cause... how do you handle that? we are in counseling with him and he refuses to talk there or home and has decided to not do school work or anything because he is mad. he wants to move back to his moms and she has told him and us over and over in a mean blunt way "there is no way, no chance he is ever moving back in with me!" she barley picks him up on her weekends and he is taking his anger for her as it being our fault, or his baby sisters for that matter...
She lost any privileges outside of the house while she was here. No going to grandma's, no going to aunt's (unless I had to go for some reason and then she had to sit right beside me and not go anywhere). After I don't know how many talks, she finally understood that if she didn't fix her 'I hate everybody' attitude, she wouldn't get to do anything. Even now, there are many times where I have to send her upstairs to be alone because she gets outright mean. (She's nine now, her dad and I separated when she was 3, he has custody.)
She hates coming here and she lets me know it. The only reason why she hates it? She has chores and kids to share toys with, and attention.
The biggest fight her and I have is she expects me to sleep in her bed with her. I told her she's almost a teenager, she needs to sleep by herself. Makes me worry about what happens at night at her dad's house but I vowed long ago to never put her in the middle. Just keep reminding her I love her and that would never change.
I know your stepson just wants his mom...because, let's face it, everybody just wants mommy.... But hopefully, one day, he'll realize he's got a good mom (you) just waiting to help heal his heart.
It was hard to find a balance between discipline and compassion for me going through that but as mommies we can always find a way,,as Tabitha put it (I completely agree) every kid wants a mommy when he gets older he will be able to come to terms with his mother situation so long as you keep an open heart..chin up mommy prayers are coming your way