Feeling self conscious..

Lately I've been noticing my pouch after having two c sections. I had no idea it was from having the muscles cut. It never even crossed my mind until my mom told me that's why I have a pouch. Now every time I loo in the mirror or I'm naked in front of my hubby I feel so self conscious. We plan to have more children but I don't want any more c sections. I've read a bit about giving birth vaginally after two c sections and it says that it's safe. Your risk really goes up for uterine rupture after the third c section. Any moms on here had two c sections then a vaginal birth? And any moms struggling with their body image?

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Bethany ReillyBedford, Virginia
05/28/15
Bethany Reilly
Oh wow! Really? I didn't know that. Yea, I think it's normal to feel a bit self conscious. I know what's important is Gods opinion but it's hard sometimes, especially being surrounded by so much sex in the media and it is usually with women who are skinny & look almost perfectn
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    05/27/15
    I totally have the c-section pooch! I was not expecting it. Mine looks like a flap of old loose skin that hangs over my scar...I hate it. I m hopeful that it goes away because it's pretty sore too. I have not had a natural birth just two c-sections but I do know the longer you wait in between babies, the better your chances of having a successful natural birth.
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    05/28/15
    Bethany Reilly
    That's what mine does. It actually hangs a little lower! Uhg. But it's nice that other moms can relate to me. Yea, I wasn't able to have a vaginal birth again. I labored for four days but I just wasn't progressing.
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    05/28/15
    Yup that's what mine does. It right where the line of the scar is. Idk if it will ever go away...sigh. I have noticed it going down some though so maybe there is hope :-)
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    05/28/15
    Bethany Reilly
    Yes! Maybe. Mine is still the same lol! Uhg:(
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      05/27/15
      I have had 5 vaginal deliveries and I have a good size pouch, too. I think it's just from everything stretching when you are pregnant. It honestly wouldn't surprise me if the cutting of the muscle contributed. But I don't think it's the only cause.
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      05/28/15
      Bethany Reilly
      Aw, really? Well maybe it is just from stretching during pregnancy. My mom was young when she had her son. My brother & I are adopted. But she bounced right back to her pre pregnancy size which was like a size 5.
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      05/28/15
      My first I bounced back. My son I kept a little extra flab right there. My third I didn't notice much. With my last I definitely have a pouch. :D Every once in awhile it will get to me, but when I remember why it's there. I'm good. Small price to pay for the gift of a child.
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      05/28/15
      Bethany Reilly
      Aw! Yes, this is so true :) and we want more babies! I just hope for a vaginal birth this next time. But yes, it is a very small price for a child:)
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      05/28/15
      Bethany Reilly
      Oh ok! Thanks for being honest! Pilates sound like such a good idea:) I'll have to try them!!
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        05/28/15
        Shauna
        I've had 3 c-sections. And my last pregnancy I developed a large hernia. When I talked to a doctor I found out my stomach muscles were destroyed from the constant stretching and there was no real way to get them back in place without surgery to correct the hernia and muscles so I did. I had a tummy tuck and liposuction. They reconstructed my ab muscles and my insurance paid part of it because of my hernia. I still struggle with my body image because it removed the pouch but I still have a round stomach up top not flat and beach ready like I dream of lol. I still have work to do on my back arms and legs but I can't devote my time to becoming a gym health nut while still loving good food. I'm learning to love my size 14 body all 199lbs but slowly make transitions to becoming a healthy weight but mentally I need to be ok first and then every pound down will feel good but won't determine my happiness
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        05/28/15
        Bethany Reilly
        Aw Shauna thanks for sharing that! So rough to go through something like that. You're beautiful for sharing it because it truly helps to have moms who know what I'm going through!
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        05/28/15
        Shauna
        Anytime. Those mom's that snap right back 5 kids later amaze me but I know my struggles and knowing I'm not alone helps too so I try to make sure no one else feels alone so I share all my struggles lol
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        05/28/15
        Bethany Reilly
        Aw! I know. I think there's very select few women who can just go right back to the way they were. My cousins wife was a track/field runner, had a six pack when she got pregnant and now she can't get the baby weight off. But thank you so much! You're so sweet.
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          05/28/15
          5sarah
          I didn't have a c section but I have a pouch I also hate. It's embarassing.
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          05/29/15
          Bethany Reilly
          I know, right? I have to wear the belly band still and I pull my pants up above my belly cu it hangs low. But I think it's great that ALL of you mommas are sharing these things! It's so helpful to know that we all have the same issue! Maybe we can all work together on tightening our bellies! But hubby and I want more kids so I don't know if I want to work so hard on getting in shape quite yet since we want more!
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          About Bethany Reilly
          Current: Bedford, Virginia
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          I am 23, raising Malachi who's 2&1/2, Elianna who is 1, & our newest addition Isaiah! Born April 15, 2016❤️